[Benjamin]

What is your view on it?

[Z]

Thought his marriage to Jordan was a bit of a sham but his music's alright and I'm jealous of his tan like

[Kizzy]

I hope this isnt about the abomination that is andre?.....

[MTVN]

Doesn't really bother me if they're all fine with it

Originally Posted by Zee

Thought his marriage to Jordan was a bit of a sham but his music's alright and I'm jealous of his tan like

[swinearefine]

I think polyamory is natural and makes people happier. I don't see why you should be limited to one sexual partner or life partner or whatever.

[King Gizzard]

Not for me

[Ammi]

..Life is complicated enough

[Niamh.]

If other people are happy with it fair enough but it definitely wouldn't be for me, I'm far too jealous and I don't like to share.

[fruit_cake]

it's a great idea, you could have one husband for every day of the week, but actually probably, you'd miss out on lots of nice little bits too thinking about it

[Niamh.]

I don't see how you could really have a proper marriage anyway with more than one husband tbh

[fruit_cake]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

I don't see how you could really have a proper marriage anyway with more than one husband tbh

Why not? what's right for one person isn't necessarily right for another. I guess it depends on what kind of person those involved are. I do think it's a bit authoritarian for a society to make it illegal. If people want to do that, that's upto them imo.

[InOne]

Would get pretty jealous I'd imagine

[fruit_cake]

there'd probably be quite a lot of sex involved for the woman, unless the husbands were a-sexual or gay

[InOne]

No wonder you like the idea

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by fruit_cake

Why not? what's right for one person isn't necessarily right for another. I guess it depends on what kind of person those involved are. I do think it's a bit authoritarian for a society to make it illegal. If people want to do that, that's upto them imo.

It wouldn't be my idea of a what proper marriage is, should I say. My idea of a proper marriage is having your husband (along with your kids) as your no.1 priority, that would be impossible if you had more than one husband. Marriage takes work, time and effort and I don't see how you could make more than one of those work properly at the same time, not in what I'd consider to be a good marriage anyway. It sounds to me like it's more of a sexual thing rather than a proper relationship.

[Ammi]

..If people don't want the exclusivity of a marriage then they don't have to get married..they can have as many partners or relationships as they wish..everybody already has that freedom.
Imo, marriage is an exclusive commitment between two people to love and care for each other...'forsaking all others'
Polygamy is associated and accepted in some cultures...and that is fine because it is their culture and falls in line with their beliefs....I don't think it works to 'pick and choose'...mixing and matching parts of different cultures...and for what reason..
Polygamy is not part of our culture....and I'm quite happy about that

[Jessica.]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

If other people are happy with it fair enough but it definitely wouldn't be for me, I'm far too jealous and I don't like to share.

Same.

[Livia]

Originally Posted by Ammi

..If people don't want the exclusivity of a marriage then they don't have to get married..they can have as many partners or relationships as they wish..everybody already has that freedom.
Imo, marriage is an exclusive commitment between two people to love and care for each other...'forsaking all others'
Polygamy is associated and accepted in some cultures...and that is fine because it is their culture and falls in line with their beliefs....I don't think it works to 'pick and choose'...mixing and matching parts of different cultures...and for what reason..
Polygamy is not part of our culture....and I'm quite happy about that

Pretty much what I was going to say, but probably better put.

[fruit_cake]

Originally Posted by InOne

No wonder you like the idea

hahahah, not quite what I had in mind

I'm not saying I'd personally choose to do it and I suppose marriages do need work and stuff like that, but some people seem wired to not be consumed by just one relationship, and I don't mean just in a sexual way, or even in a sexual way at all.

It seems to me that everybody has sides to themselves that are developed to their potential better with different people. Sometimes that is purely sexual but that's just a small part of any relationship, and conversely, often monogamous relationships between lovers or even just between friends can become very unhealthy and obsessional tbf... and completely unproductive and damaging for the individuals involved. Not everything is rosy on either side as far as I can see.

It may not be morally above board in today's societies but it shouldn't be illegal imo. I think people need freedom to choose their own lifestyles and this would be one of those freedoms

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by fruit_cake

hahahah, not quite what I had in mind

I'm not saying I'd personally choose to do it and I suppose marriages do need work and stuff like that, but some people seem wired to not be consumed by just one relationship, and I don't mean just in a sexual way, or even in a sexual way at all.

It seems to me that everybody has sides to themselves that are developed to their potential better with different people. Sometimes that is purely sexual but that's just a small part of any relationship, and conversely, often monogamous relationships between lovers or even just between friends can become very unhealthy and obsessional tbf... and completely unproductive and damaging for the individuals involved. Not everything is rosy on either side as far as I can see.

It may not be morally above board in today's societies but it shouldn't be illegal imo. I think people need freedom to choose their own lifestyles and this would be one of those freedoms

I understand what you're saying and that's fine but why the need to get married at all in that case? Why not just have different partners? It kind of defeats the whole purpose of marriage if you ask me and lessons what our society considers marriage to be. Also, I don't know how good it would be to bring children into that kind of situation either.

[fruit_cake]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

I understand what you're saying and that's fine but why the need to get married at all in that case? Why not just have different partners? It kind of defeats the whole purpose of marriage if you ask me and lessons what our society considers marriage to be. Also, I don't know how good it would be to bring children into that kind of situation either.

um..I guess the need to marry binds those individuals into a relationship that they can't just treat as a 'throw away' relationship. I'd assume they'd all live together or at the very least some of them would live together and they would have some binding things that weren't just 'get up and walk away', just as any marriage would have.

I do share concerns with children, but maybe that depends again on how responsible those involved in the relationship are rather than the relationship style itself. Should lesbians or gays not be able to bring up children? I don't know but I really dislike that the state is making up our minds for us.

As long as there are no parties being hurt, then why should people not be able to live polyandric lives? or indeed any other frowned upon lifestyle for example gay or lesbian marriage?

Polygamous relationships have worked in many societies for years, so I don't see why polyandric ones potentially couldn't do the same.

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by fruit_cake

um..I guess the need to marry binds those individuals into a relationship that they can't just treat as a 'throw away' relationship. I'd assume they'd all live together or at the very least some of them would live together and they would have some binding things that weren't just 'get up and walk away', just as any marriage would have.

I do share concerns with children, but maybe that depends again on how responsible those involved in the relationship are rather than the relationship style itself. Should lesbians or gays not be able to bring up children? I don't know but I really dislike that the state is making up our minds for us.

As long as there are no parties being hurt, then why should people not be able to live polyandric lives? or indeed any other frowned upon lifestyle for example gay or lesbian marriage?

Polygamous relationships have worked in many societies for years, so I don't see why polyandric ones potentially couldn't do the same.

Well, for me marriage is making a full commitment to one person and one person only. Making that commitment to more than one person lessons the original commitment imo. Gays and lesbians are still only committing to one person if they decide to get married.

It's fine to say as long as no parties are being hurt but I think the children are being put in a confusing and not as a stable family unit by having their mother married to multiple people and there is surely issues of jealousy from both the husbands and the children too.

I know other societies have this tradition in their society but usually those societies don't see women as equals as our society does.

[Jords]

Marriage = 1 + 1

Shouldnt be allowed, takes away what the tradition is about.
And if its with brothers thats distrubing...

[Ammi]

I don't know how well polyandry or polygamy work..as it isn't my culture nor is it familiar to me..and I have no interest in researching it. Imo it's not a good idea to attempt to introduce 'bits' of other cultures into yours unless it is beneficial to the majority and for very good reason..and although there may be some who would apprecaite it..I doubt it would be a majority. Our culture supports a single life partner and..although everything has flaws..on the whole..I think it works
..it makes no matter whether it be same sex partners..they are still exclusive to each other and form a family unit.
There are many aspects and tradition to other cultures..which, although I respect...I would not want to practise myself

[Ammi]

Originally Posted by Jords

Marriage = 1 + 1

Shouldnt be allowed, takes away what the tradition is about.
And if its with brothers thats distrubing...

LOL..I think I would agree with that...but maybe in some cultures...it's accepted