[lostalex]

Sometimes friends and boyfriends have pointed out random people (like on public transport or on tv) to me that they say looks like me or reminds them of me, and i've always been like wtf, i'm nothing like that!, even offended sometimes. I'm like "if that's what you think i am, why are you even with me?" but they didn't understand why i was offended.

This is a question that really only gay people can really answer, but if you are straight and want to use your imagination feel free to answer as well.

Would you take a second look at you? Would you date you? Would you start a relationship with you?

Do you date people similar to you? or would you not be attracted to yourself?

[Ammi]

..*is not gay so feels excluded....*...



..but...no I probably wouldn't because I do think for me anyway, what works is that my OH really is 'the other half' in that it's the differences in us that balance each other..unless you mean in physical appearance..when a couple can look more like siblings..

[Jessica.]

No, not at all, me and my boyfriend are so different in the ways that mean something, I don't think I could tolerate another of myself, I need variation!

[lostalex]

see it's different when straight people answer because men and women are already so different.

That's why it's a more interesting question when gay people answer...

[Ammi]

..yeah I see your point Alex..would you date yourself, then..?..

[lostalex]

Originally Posted by Ammi

..yeah I see your point Alex..would you date yourself, then..?..

Absolutely. I'd be like a snake eating it's own tail.

[Dollface]

People are always telling me i look like random actresses/singers

If i looked like the people they compare me to, then yeah i'd date me! If i was a straight guy or lesbian girl but i don't think i look anything like them
But i'd take a second look at me because of my fashion sense

[Ammi]

Originally Posted by lostalex

Absolutely. I'd be like a snake eating it's own tail.

....so if you dated yourself..do you think that it would be a short and passionate thing/all about the sex, type thing... or do you think it could be life long partner stuff..?...

[lostalex]

Originally Posted by Ammi

....so if you dated yourself..do you think that it would be a short and passionate thing/all about the sex, type thing... or do you think it could be life long partner stuff..?...

No, I meant we'd end up killing each other, consuming each other in some kind of sick karmic cycle.

I wonder which one of us would get jealous first. I am a very jealous and possessive person.

We would be happy though, because i thrive on conflict. but the conflict would get exponentially worse/better/more exciting like a reverse echo.

[Ammi]

Originally Posted by lostalex

No, I meant we'd end up killing each other, consuming each other in some kind of sick karmic cycle.

I wonder which one of us would get jealous first. I am a very jealous and possessive person.

We would be happy though, because i thrive on conflict. but the conflict would get exponentially worse/better/more exciting like a reverse echo.

...hmmm, maybe you wouldn't thrive at all though because there would be no differences at all and it would be more just total destruction/a complete clash where there would be no starting place to thrive whatsoever...it is an extremely interesting concept though..of two people being identical in every way and what sort of relationship if any was possible that would create...

[lostalex]

Originally Posted by Ammi

...hmmm, maybe you wouldn't thrive at all though because there would be no differences at all and it would be more just total destruction/a complete clash where there would be no starting place to thrive whatsoever...it is an extremely interesting concept though..of two people being identical in every way and what sort of relationship if any was possible that would create...

But i'm also very insecure, so maybe because he's me, he would know how to manipulate my insecurities. He'd also know my limits and know exactly how far he can push me. I've never been violent or abusive in my life, so i don't have to worry about that, but maybe because we know each other's buttons we would get violent, i don't know.

Maybe in the end Dating myself would end up changing him so much that i'm no longer dating myself. or maybe i'll change, or maybe we both will. but would we change in the same ways? or would we both end up being very different even though we started off the same? it's fun to think about.

Or maybe we'd just love ourselves. i think we could find solutions and compromise.

[Ammi]

Originally Posted by lostalex

But i'm also very insecure, so maybe because he's me, he would know how to manipulate my insecurities. He'd also know my limits and know exactly how far he can push me. I've never been violent or abusive in my life, so i don't have to worry about that, but maybe because we know each other's buttons we would get violent, i don't know.

Maybe in the end Dating myself would end up changing him so much that i'm no longer dating myself. or maybe i'll change, or maybe we both will. but would we change in the same ways? or would we both end up being very different even though we started off the same? it's fun to think about.

Or maybe we'd just love ourselves. i think we could find solutions and compromise.

..yeah it is quite interesting...you could become 'perfect' in that you don't see things in yourself..like annoying subconscious habits type thing...but then you'll see them in him and realise that it's also you..(confusing..)..so would actively try to change them and basically see any flaws through him so making you try to work on all of those flaws..?..that's possible...OR..you could become like Bette and Dot in AHS and become completely separated in character of one 'good' and one 'evil'.....'Lost' the bad one and 'Alex' the good one.....

[lostalex]

Originally Posted by Ammi

..yeah it is quite interesting...you could become 'perfect' in that you don't see things in yourself..like annoying subconscious habits type thing...but then you'll see them in him and realise that it's also you..(confusing..)..so would actively try to change them and basically see any flaws through him so making you try to work on all of those flaws..?..that's possible...OR..you could become like Bette and Dot in AHS and become completely separated in character of one 'good' and one 'evil'.....'Lost' the bad one and 'Alex' the good one.....

I really want to date myself now so I can answer all of these questions! and even if it all turns to sh**, at least i'll get some really awesome blow jobs along the way.

[Josy]

No definitely not, I am far too fussy and grumpy at times.

[Ninastar]

Originally Posted by Ammi

..*is not gay so feels excluded....*...



..but...no I probably wouldn't because I do think for me anyway, what works is that my OH really is 'the other half' in that it's the differences in us that balance each other..unless you mean in physical appearance..when a couple can look more like siblings..

the IGNORANCE of this post ammi!!!!!!!!!! how dare you!! how do you think gays feel everyday!?!?!?!!!!!

(kidding ammi, u kno i love u really)

[Liam-]

Absolutely not, I'd annoy myself with my low self esteem and general glass half empty look on life, it would take a more patient, confident and Half glass full person to deal with me, otherwise it would be hell

[Crimson Dynamo]

Originally Posted by Josy

No definitely not, I am far too fussy and grumpy at times.

**examines last 2 words in sentence**

[joeysteele]

Originally Posted by Josy

No definitely not, I am far too fussy and grumpy at times.

That comes as a big surprise because I don't see you as either of those things from my time on here.

Speaking for me, no I doubt I would want to go out with myself for one reason.
Although I do really care about other people,I think in the form of me and not we.
Not in a selfish way but overall.

I need a lot of my own space and am really a solitary person a greatd eal of the time.
A great number of people, even good friends and even family, feel that they never really can get strongly close with me, that I always have a barrier that I choose to bring to the forefront should my guard seem to be slipping.

I am there for people, I love being around others in all scenarios,I am considered really friendly,warm and approachable but in a one to one relationship,I think at the present time anyway, I would be a near nightmare to cope with due to my head in the clouds way of thinking.

[Niamh.]

Well they say that people end up with people who look like them alot of times that's just looks though. I think alot of times personality wise you need someone a bit different to balance you out but similar enough so you have stuff in common with them

[Crimson Dynamo]

Originally Posted by joeysteele

That comes as a big surprise because I don't see you as either of those things from my time on here.....snip

[rubymoo]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

Well they say that people end up with people who look like them alot of times that's just looks though. I think alot of times personality wise you need someone a bit different to balance you out but similar enough so you have stuff in common with them

When i first got with my now husband, we used to get mistaken for brother and sister, which at 15 really shocked me

We are very different though, i'm quite laid back and flaky, he's ordered and obsessive, i'm quite day dreamy, he's a realist, i can be quite matter of fact and upfront, he can be quite passive aggressive, he's very organised, and i'm definitely not

[Crimson Dynamo]

You tend to go for people like your parents i am afraid

the template is very strong

[rubymoo]

Originally Posted by LeatherTrumpet

You tend to go for people like your parents i am afraid

the template is very strong

Thankfully my husband is nothing like my dad, but my 2 sisters went out with violent abusive alcoholics that sat on the dole.....just like my dad.

They aren't with these men now, thankfully!

But one of my sisters has really struggled with men always picking the wrong ones, she gets bored with the nice guys.....go figure

[Liam-]

Originally Posted by LeatherTrumpet

You tend to go for people like your parents i am afraid

the template is very strong

If i ever ended up with someone that was like either of my parents, i think I'd shoot myself in the face.

[Vanessa]

No, i'm too much of a drama queen.