[Malza]

To explain

Last Friday night, my dad collapsed, and since then, he's in coma in intensive care.
Only kept alive by machines by now, and he might pass away soon.

I love my dad, I visit him in hospital as often I can, and I cried my heart many times since it happened.

But still I need to free my mind from the sadness that surrounds our family right now.

Does it make me a bad person if I joke around in my favourite Forums Online?
If I will visit a concert (which I have tickets for since a long time)
If I have a laugh at work?

I need it to not get lost in my own mind right now, but how do people feel about it, knowing what is going on, and seeing me "having fun"


Is it wrong to have fun, when (public may think) you shouldn't?

[Vicky.]

Not at all. Your dad wouldnt want you sitting moping around, you have to get on with your life

[Stu]

Absoloutely not. We all need to keep living. That cannot stop.

[Tom]

Not at all- I lost my dad not so long ago and went to see Toy Story 3 the day he died...

if anything you need the distractions. plus I hated mine anyway

[Malza]

It still feels wrong somehow, even if I know it is not, as my dad was always up for a laugh

[Tom]

Originally Posted by Jack Skellington

It still feels wrong somehow, even if I know it is not, as my dad was always up for a laugh

if he was always up for a laugh then do you think he'd be bothered about you having a laugh even at this time?

[Malza]

I am not thinking he would not like it, It may just look strange for other people seeing me acting like that.
Or it is just my brain messing with me at the moment

[Angus]

Originally Posted by Jack Skellington

To explain

Last Friday night, my dad collapsed, and since then, he's in coma in intensive care.
Only kept alive by machines by now, and he might pass away soon.

I love my dad, I visit him in hospital as often I can, and I cried my heart many times since it happened.

But still I need to free my mind from the sadness that surrounds our family right now.

Does it make me a bad person if I joke around in my favourite Forums Online?
If I will visit a concert (which I have tickets for since a long time)
If I have a laugh at work?

I need it to not get lost in my own mind right now, but how do people feel about it, knowing what is going on, and seeing me "having fun"


Is it wrong to have fun, when (public may think) you shouldn't?

There is no right or wrong way set in stone as to how you should react in such a situation -you should do whatever you feel comfortable with, and I'm sure your Dad, who loves you, would not want you to feel guilty because you need to divert your thoughts away from your grief for an hour or two.

Other people's opinions are of no consequence since they are not experiencing what you are experiencing and they have no right to judge you.

[Tom]

Originally Posted by Jack Skellington

I am not thinking he would not like it, It may just look strange for other people seeing me acting like that.
Or it is just my brain messing with me at the moment

Screw what other people think, do what you want. if you live your life wondering how people are percieving you then you're going to get nowhere

[sooty]

Malza

[ILoveTRW]

life goes on

[Stacey.]

Nope, you should just carry on as normal.

[Patrick]

If he died and you were like 'k lulz who's up for a pint?' Then you need to be slapped.

But if he's just collapsed and your on a forum having..fun, then it's not a problem.

[Lee.]

First of all, I am so sorry for you and your family's sorrow, especially at this time of year..

Everybody deals with this sort of thing differently, and if this is your way of coping then it is fine.

I know how it feels to feel guilt over such things and I don't think there is anything you can do to alleviate these feelings,but it will get better, I promise

Be strong..

[Malza]

Originally Posted by happyland

I know how it feels to feel guilt over such things and I don't think there is anything you can do to alleviate these feelings,but it will get better, I promise

Be strong..

Thank you

[Lee.]

Originally Posted by Jack Skellington

Thank you

Bitte sehr

[Mystic Mock]

well if it was me i wouldnt want to sit there sobbing,so i cant see why you wouldnt want to take your mind off things.

[Miss Ivy Balls]

Awwwwww.

PM me if you ever need to.

He'd want you to be happy as he loves you.

Try not to let what other people think bother you. It can be such a downfall.

You should be OK. Try be strong.

xx

[_Seth]

Hell no!

[Ammi]

You could be miserable and cry your eyes out 24/7 and it wouldn't change anything except you'd be miserable - I'm sure your dad wouldn't want that

[Boothy]

If you had collapsed would you want people to be worrying about you all the time or would you want them to get on with their lives?

Personally, I'd hate to be the person to bring misery to those I loved most.

[bananarama]

Originally Posted by Jack Skellington

To explain

Last Friday night, my dad collapsed, and since then, he's in coma in intensive care.
Only kept alive by machines by now, and he might pass away soon.

I love my dad, I visit him in hospital as often I can, and I cried my heart many times since it happened.

But still I need to free my mind from the sadness that surrounds our family right now.

Does it make me a bad person if I joke around in my favourite Forums Online?
If I will visit a concert (which I have tickets for since a long time)
If I have a laugh at work?

I need it to not get lost in my own mind right now, but how do people feel about it, knowing what is going on, and seeing me "having fun"


Is it wrong to have fun, when (public may think) you shouldn't?

Like others have said Your dad would not want you to be unhappy would he!!!

Just be yourself and the reactions that are happening to you as you are doing no wrong as you suggest in your title thread......

When a tragedy situation occures the mind deals with it on an auto survival basis for most people. Going into a state of depression and not having something to smile about could actually make you ill too........

Also some people have a delayed reaction to grief situations.........I did when I lost my Father who I adored it was several months before the reality kicked in......Prior to that I was relativly stable about the loss.....

Hope you keep peace of mind.. ........

[Malza]

You are all right and reading it makes me feel much better

[Jords]

Nope, sitting about getting depressed about things is never the answer.

[Kerry]

No, it is not wrong to enjoy yourself. Your dad would NOT want you moping. I've seen more death than I care to mention in my family and know for a fact none of them would want to see me unhappy.

Your dad will want you upbeat, strong and the person you are. Not dwelling. Theres nothing you can do for him at the moment sweetheart

My love and best good wishes to you and your family.

Take care