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04-03-2012, 01:09 PM | #1 | |||
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Quand il pleut, il pleut
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..we may not be able to easily contol our feelings but can we control our actions...or do you think we are helpless to resist if we meet our 'soulmate'.
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04-03-2012, 01:15 PM | #2 | |||
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I think its down to personality. Some people can resist their emotions and others easily give-in.
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04-03-2012, 01:15 PM | #3 | ||
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Just get laid and the problems will go away
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04-03-2012, 01:18 PM | #4 | |||
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I think when you have a 'soulmate', you like them straight away no matter what and they feel the same. but it's a different feeling to just liking them, if that makes sense.
I actually think it's quite rare and that love now is overrated. A lot of people have no idea what they are talking about when it comes to love. It's a new age thing
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04-03-2012, 01:18 PM | #5 | |||
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04-03-2012, 01:19 PM | #6 | |||
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Says the 14 year old virgin.
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04-03-2012, 01:21 PM | #7 | ||
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Soulmate is a pretty meaningless phrase. It's just a phrase that people use to quantify how much they belong to each other.
I don't think you can help who you are attracted to, but that's it. People have to choose to take it any further than that. |
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04-03-2012, 01:26 PM | #8 | ||
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I originally thought we weren't, however it's the definition of 'love' likely that is the problem, Niamh made a strong point as to love developing over time citing attraction as the real thing initially.
You Ammi. made similar points. I can see all sides to it. I guess I have never been 'in love' yet,as opposed to just family/friend love so cannot speak with knowledge. I have seen people though who have instantly been attracted to someone, they have ended up getting married and staying happy, I have seen people who likely love the person they are with but have problems all the time with them but stay because,they (or they say they are 'in love'), with them. My own Mum and Dad met at a function when my Mum was 17 and Dad was 20, they say,they instantly fell for each other,my Mum saying to her friends with her, that's the man I will marry.they were married a year later and now have 4 sons and grandchildren. So I don't know really, I would guess likely you and Niamh are more likely right with the attraction element but like everything else there are likely exceptions and people can fall in love quickly and not totally control that. I think I will stay single,I think I will definately control what I do as to this being 'in love' thing. Last edited by joeysteele; 04-03-2012 at 01:27 PM. |
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04-03-2012, 01:30 PM | #9 | |||
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04-03-2012, 01:33 PM | #10 | ||
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04-03-2012, 01:41 PM | #11 | |||
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I like your mum and dad's story though...and I'm glad they met...and made Joey |
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04-03-2012, 01:47 PM | #12 | |||
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No..I will watch it, I like Tim Minchin. I think there are many people who we could fall in love with, but we may not necessarily meet them all..or the timing/circumstances may not be correct. I call my OH my 'soulmate' because we have been together so long it feels like we are two halves of a whole...LOL..corny.
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04-03-2012, 01:58 PM | #13 | |||
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I think it's something out of our control to be honest. Sure you can push the feelings down but they won't go away. And of course you can move on too but that affection for the person will still be there.
Thats what I think anyway. Anyone who I've seen who's been in love and lost the person they did love, always still seem to harbour affection for that person even if their relationship wasn't the best. My Mum's an example of this: she was with a guy who shouted and swore at her constantly and still to this day won't say a bad word against him.
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04-03-2012, 02:44 PM | #14 | ||
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I don't think it is possible to control love, though you can control your actions.
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04-03-2012, 02:53 PM | #15 | |||
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04-03-2012, 03:06 PM | #16 | ||
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love needs to be devided up!,
it covers a wide spectrum of emotions and feelings and depends on the person the time of life past experiences and much more. |
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04-03-2012, 03:15 PM | #17 | |||
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I think you have no control when you fall in love with someone. If you're lucky you fall in love with a totally suitable person who returns your love. Lots of people are unlucky enough to fall for a total arse but they still love them completely. Although I think it's possible to "control yourself" and deny yourself, most people wouldn't. However, we're all ready to say that other people should control themselves... as in the teacher/pupil story. We're all judge and jury when it comes to other people's business, especially when we only have a snippet of a story.
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04-03-2012, 07:04 PM | #18 | |||
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I think you can stop yourself falling in love with a person yeah. I believe people mistake strong attraction for love, I don't believe you can love someone without knowing them very well first, that's a very shallow idea of love imo. Love is earned and worked at.
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04-03-2012, 07:12 PM | #19 | |||
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Yes I agree, in a lot of ways I think infatuations can feel stronger and more intense than love and therefore mistaken for love but that kind of intensity is hard to sustain..it's possible that they can 'settle' into a deeper love but often they don't
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04-03-2012, 07:15 PM | #20 | |||
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Love is formed over time
I can't help but have these feelings for Niamh I'm sorry |
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04-03-2012, 07:16 PM | #21 | |||
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Yes, I agree. But I suppose "Love" is just a word and it depends what each person considers to be love. For me, it's all about actions speaking louder than words. Someone could tell me they loved me but I wouldn't believe they really did unless I already knew they loved me by the way they are with me and things they've done for me etc.
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04-03-2012, 07:17 PM | #22 | |||
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It's ok Nathan, you're not the first
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04-03-2012, 07:22 PM | #23 | |||
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04-03-2012, 07:40 PM | #24 | ||
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its all about knowing the difference between love and lust,
over time you can fall in love with someone but you can also fall out of love |
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04-03-2012, 07:44 PM | #25 | |||
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anyone who's been in a situation of unrequited love will quite vehemently deny it
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