[joeysteele]

I originally thought we weren't, however it's the definition of 'love' likely that is the problem, Niamh made a strong point as to love developing over time citing attraction as the real thing initially.
You Ammi. made similar points. I can see all sides to it.

I guess I have never been 'in love' yet,as opposed to just family/friend love so cannot speak with knowledge.
I have seen people though who have instantly been attracted to someone, they have ended up getting married and staying happy, I have seen people who likely love the person they are with but have problems all the time with them but stay because,they (or they say they are 'in love'), with them.

My own Mum and Dad met at a function when my Mum was 17 and Dad was 20, they say,they instantly fell for each other,my Mum saying to her friends with her, that's the man I will marry.they were married a year later and now have 4 sons and grandchildren.
So I don't know really, I would guess likely you and Niamh are more likely right with the attraction element but like everything else there are likely exceptions and people can fall in love quickly and not totally control that.

I think I will stay single,I think I will definately control what I do as to this being 'in love' thing.