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Tom · 09-12-2010, 03:56 PM

Something that has been annoying me for a bit, is it immoral to steal someone elses partner or is it just bad luck? Should you follow head or heart?

Tom4784 · 09-12-2010, 03:59 PM

I think that if someone's in a position where they can be 'stolen' then the relationship they're currently in is pretty much dead in the water without any outside influence.

Pyramid* · 09-12-2010, 04:00 PM

You can't steal someone who doesn't want to be 'stolen'.

Shasown · 09-12-2010, 04:06 PM

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Originally Posted by Snowball

You can't steal someone who doesn't want to be 'stolen'.

Yeah you can but you may need Rohypnol and a vehicle to transport them in. If you cant obtain rohypnol a 16 oz ball pein hammer is a more than satisfactory alternative.

Beastie · 09-12-2010, 04:26 PM

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Originally Posted by Snowball

You can't steal someone who doesn't want to be 'stolen'.

True. It is there own silly fault for cheating in the first place!! You can't just blame the other person "for stealing them". I think there are a few horrible people out there who do have time on their hands and want to split up a relationship because they like the boy/girl. This is a minority and if they are successful with their mission it is still the boy or girl who cheated fault as well! Once you are in a relationship you can't control whether that person will cheat or not. Might as well give them the benefit of the doubt. Better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all. Plus there are plenty other fish in the sea. << Well maybe not if you are in your 30's/40's and you are single and want marriage and kids then. It would probably be harder to find a man/woman then! Mmm?

Pyramid* · 09-12-2010, 04:39 PM

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Originally Posted by XmasPudding

True. It is there own silly fault for cheating in the first place!! You can't just blame the other person "for stealing them". I think there are a few horrible people out there who do have time on their hands and want to split up a relationship because they like the boy/girl. This is a minority and if they are successful with their mission it is still the boy or girl who cheated fault as well! Once you are in a relationship you can't control whether that person will cheat or not. Might as well give them the benefit of the doubt. Better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all. Plus there are plenty other fish in the sea. << Well maybe not if you are in your 30's/40's and you are single and want marriage and kids then. It would probably be harder to find a man/woman then! Mmm?

First part, totally true. Second part not so true! Plenty of fish out there!

But as you say, there's no need to cheat in the first place. Cheating is a way of 'try before you buy'..... with the 'one being cheated on' being used as a safety net in case the 'affair' doesn't work out.

It will still hurt the person, but if they loved you, they wouldn't want you to be in a relationship (even with you) if it made them unhappy.

Absolutely no need for it. End the current relationship and then move on - don't do it whilst you are in a relationship. Simple!

Locke. · 09-12-2010, 04:00 PM

My opinion changed on it when I was sort of part of it.

Went from 'immoral' to 'survival of the fittest'

Princess · 09-12-2010, 04:00 PM

I don't think anyone should cheat,I think if you're in a relationship and you want to be someone else,then break up with the person you're with. A lot easier said than done a lot of the time,I know.

Pyramid* · 09-12-2010, 04:02 PM

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Originally Posted by Princess

I don't think anyone should cheat,I think if you're in a relationship and you want to be someone else,then break up with the person you're with.

Totally agree. Never have been able to fathom this out or understand.... if they ever cared for the person at all.... why hurt them by cheating - just break it off then do whatever you want with whomever you want.

Completely baffles me, it really does.

Beastie · 09-12-2010, 04:24 PM

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Originally Posted by Princess

I don't think anyone should cheat,I think if you're in a relationship and you want to be someone else,then break up with the person you're with. A lot easier said than done a lot of the time,I know.

True. Usually most people then may have made the wrong choice. I do think if you have been or are in a long term relationship/marriage you may end up liking someone else. Most of the time them feelings just go. If not then avoid that person.

Niamh. · 09-12-2010, 04:01 PM

I think it's immoral but obviously the boyfriend/Girlfriend is much more immoral. Though anyone who gets a stolen partner will most likely suffer the same fate in the future........

Pyramid* · 09-12-2010, 04:03 PM

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Originally Posted by NingleBells

I think it's immoral but obviously the boyfriend/Girlfriend is much more immoral. Though anyone who gets a stolen partner will most likely suffer the same fate in the future........

Always be wary of that, I agree. If the 'partner' can cheat on their other 'partner' to be with you, they have the ability to do exactly the same to you....

Beastie · 09-12-2010, 04:28 PM

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Originally Posted by NingleBells

I think it's immoral but obviously the boyfriend/Girlfriend is much more immoral. Though anyone who gets a stolen partner will most likely suffer the same fate in the future........

Hopefully. I love Karma

Novo · 09-12-2010, 04:04 PM

Hate it when people say " I'd never do that it's wrong " you'll never know if you would or wouldn't until your in that position.. likely most people would

Niamh. · 09-12-2010, 04:05 PM

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Originally Posted by Novo

Hate it when people say " I'd never do that it's wrong " you'll never know if you would or wouldn't until your in that position.. likely most people would

I think people know their own personalities/morals to be well able to answer this Andy.

Tom · 09-12-2010, 04:06 PM

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Originally Posted by Novo

Hate it when people say " I'd never do that it's wrong " you'll never know if you would or wouldn't until your in that position.. likely most people would

I'm kind of leaning towards knowing its wrong but I'll probably do it anyway. In the situation atm, did mean to put it in general chat but oh well, and just unsure if to back off or go for it. Makes it a bit worse that I know him & get on dead well but thats life

Niamh. · 09-12-2010, 04:08 PM

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Originally Posted by Tom

I'm kind of leaning towards knowing its wrong but I'll probably do it anyway. In the situation atm, did mean to put it in general chat but oh well, and just unsure if to back off or go for it. Makes it a bit worse that I know him & get on dead well but thats life

I thought you have a pregnant girlfriend?

and the fact that your friends with the guy is even more wrong

Tom · 09-12-2010, 04:09 PM

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Originally Posted by NingleBells

I thought you have a pregnant girlfriend?

and the fact that your friends with the guy is even more wrong

no and no. not going into detail though but its not Jeremy Kyle-ish.

Niamh. · 09-12-2010, 04:10 PM

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Originally Posted by Tom

no and no. not going into detail though but its not Jeremy Kyle-ish.

oh, sorry, i could have sworn you made a thread a few weeks back saying your g/f was pregnant

Novo · 09-12-2010, 04:15 PM

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Originally Posted by Tom

I'm kind of leaning towards knowing its wrong but I'll probably do it anyway. In the situation atm, did mean to put it in general chat but oh well, and just unsure if to back off or go for it. Makes it a bit worse that I know him & get on dead well but thats life

Yeah same, if you like someone you can't really do much about it.. it's not like you can turn a button off and that's that.. if it's wrong then so be it

Pyramid* · 09-12-2010, 04:08 PM

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Originally Posted by Novo

Hate it when people say " I'd never do that it's wrong " you'll never know if you would or wouldn't until your in that position.. likely most people would

Speak for yourself and not 'most people'. People are individuals and have their own morals, they know their own self more than you.

Anyone who's been on the receiving end of cheating knows how terrible it is: and I for one have and would never put anyone I had ever cared for, through that. It's selfishness personified.

Jords · 09-12-2010, 04:04 PM

Immoral.

What the **** does it have with survival of the fittest? Bloody hell.

Stacey. · 09-12-2010, 04:06 PM

You should always follow your heart, cus that's what you want. And you should go for it, you don't know how it could turn it until you go for it, and if it's what you want then you should.

Niamh. · 09-12-2010, 04:09 PM

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Originally Posted by Stacey.

You should always follow your heart, cus that's what you want. And you should go for it, you don't know how it could turn it until you go for it, and if it's what you want then you should.

saying you're following your heart is just another word for being selfish.

Pyramid* · 09-12-2010, 04:11 PM

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Originally Posted by NingleBells

saying you're following your heart is just another word for being selfish.

I think those who 'follow their heart' find out that what their heart said, find it lasts a few months until they decide to 'follow their heart' again.

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