[LemonJam]

Hmmmm?

I could, probably due to my upbringing being around people with disabilities anyway and I'm just weirdlol but if they look good and are a nice person then hells yeah.

Can you see past the chair or am I the only one?

[joeysteele]

Yes, no hesitation.

[Niamh.]

Probably if I was attracted to them but tbh I haven't been around many people who are in wheel chairs

[CharlieO]

If they had the same qualities that would draw me to a person with no disabilities then it wouldn't make a difference.

[Lee.]

Nah, but seriously, I could definitely see past the wheelchair. As long as somebody can make me laugh and washes regularly, it doesn't matter one bit about a disability

[Suze]

How you relate to the person should matter, not the disability.

[Beastie]

Yeah. Look at Artie from Glee. He's well fit!

[Niall]

Originally Posted by Beastie

Yeah. Look at Artie from Glee. He's well fit!

But seriously, yeah I would.

[Stu]

Honestly no. I don't think I would be able to look past it.

[Captain.Remy]

Originally Posted by Stu

Honestly no. I don't think I would be able to look past it.

+1

I'm not into charity.

[joeysteele]

Originally Posted by Captain.Remy

+1

I'm not into charity.

You are entitled to your view obviously but its rather insulting to bring in the word Charity.

Most wheelchair bound individuals are far from being Charity cases and also would hate to be thought as one too.They also likely do a great lot more 'for' Charites than they would ever get from them.

[Judas]

I would like to say yes, but sadly no. I don't think I would feel there could be so much emotional contact, for some reason I think I would see them in a emotional sense as sterile? I know how rude, and wrong, that sounds but I think it's just because the only person I've ever met in a wheelchair was really boring and closed-book, so it's kind of associated in my mind. Unless of course I was with, and in love with them before they entered the wheelchair.

[Claymores]

One of our FMs is in a wheelchair - she is lovely person and I'd marry her in a second if not already taken

I have one testicle gone and prone to cancer - should I have a badge and you start a thread about me?

"Would you date a bloke with only 1 bollock?"

How low or unthoughtful can TiBB become?????? Bring back Stace - at least she did it naiively instead of rude

[Fetch The Bolt Cutters]

Originally Posted by Claymores

One of our FMs is in a wheelchair - she is lovely person and I'd marry her in a second if not already taken

I have one testicle gone and prone to cancer - should I have a badge and you start a thread about me?

"Would you date a bloke with only 1 bollock?"

How low or unthoughtful can TiBB become?????? Bring back Stace - at least she did it naiively instead of rude

[LemonJam]

Originally Posted by Claymores

One of our FMs is in a wheelchair - she is lovely person and I'd marry her in a second if not already taken

I have one testicle gone and prone to cancer - should I have a badge and you start a thread about me?

"Would you date a bloke with only 1 bollock?"

How low or unthoughtful can TiBB become?????? Bring back Stace - at least she did it naiively instead of rude

Well screw the fact that I grew up around people with disabilities, and to add my father also had testicular cancer and had one removed, so don't even try opening that kind of can of worms.

I don't see how it's rude, I think you're just trying to create a reaction. Good luck with that.

[Claymores]

Originally Posted by LemonJam

Well screw the fact that I grew up around people with disabilities, and to add my father also had testicular cancer and had one removed, so don't even try opening that kind of can of worms.

I don't see how it's rude, I think you're just trying to create a reaction. Good luck with that.

This thread doesn't try to create a reaction? Jeez-oh kid - get a life or job. You seriously need to think about what yer saying.

[LemonJam]

Originally Posted by Claymores

This thread doesn't try to create a reaction? Jeez-oh kid - get a life or job. You seriously need to think about what yer saying.

1. I'm not a kid, don't ****ing patronize me you old drunk.

2. Of course it's creating a reaction, it is a hard subject but you're just making it worse.

3. Everybody else is fine with it, you're the only one making a fuss quelle ****ing suprise.

[Shaun]

Originally Posted by Claymores

This thread doesn't try to create a reaction? Jeez-oh kid - get a life or job. You seriously need to think about what yer saying.

Grow. Up. You. 45. Year. Old. ****ing. Joke.

[Benjamin]

Originally Posted by Claymores

This thread doesn't try to create a reaction? Jeez-oh kid - get a life or job. You seriously need to think about what yer saying.

I don't think it was intended the way you seem to think it is. Yes it is a sensitive question, but one that people have differing opinions on.

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Judas

I would like to say yes, but sadly no. I don't think I would feel there could be so much emotional contact, for some reason I think I would see them in a emotional sense as sterile? I know how rude, and wrong, that sounds but I think it's just because the only person I've ever met in a wheelchair was really boring and closed-book, so it's kind of associated in my mind. Unless of course I was with, and in love with them before they entered the wheelchair.

Why though? You can't judge every person in a wheel chair from 1 person you knew, that's crazy!

[Judas]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

Why though? You can't judge every person in a wheel chair from 1 person you knew, that's crazy!

I know, it is awfull. It's just I don't think I could find them attractive. Maybe it's just part of me, I guess I see it as a weakness. And the whole 'sterile' thing I guess stems from the one person I do know who was more plain and bland than an A4 peice of paper. I know it's band to stereotype, but for some reason I just don't think I could date someone in a wheelchair. It's bad, but I think true for me.

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Judas

I know, it is awfull. It's just I don't think I could find them attractive. Maybe it's just part of me, I guess I see it as a weakness. And the whole 'sterile' thing I guess stems from the one person I do know who was more plain and bland than an A4 peice of paper. I know it's band to stereotype, but for some reason I just don't think I could date someone in a wheelchair. It's bad, but I think true for me.

yeah but there's plenty of able bodied people who are bland or emotionally sterile too I'm not saying you should date someone in a wheel chair, it was just the comment about them being emotionally sterile that I thought was a bit out of order!

[Judas]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

yeah but there's plenty of able bodied people who are bland or emotionally sterile too I'm not saying you should date someone in a wheel chair, it was just the comment about them being emotionally sterile that I thought was a bit out of order!

No I know, it's bad. I guess it would change if I met someone different, I guess it's just like when you meet a dick head with a certain name, and before you meet someone else nice with that name you just hate it. Also it may be the general look of being in chair, I know it's wrong but I would feel like I couldn't just spontaneously go for a hug or something. I realise what an ignorant dick I sound.

[Zippy]

Originally Posted by Judas

I would like to say yes, but sadly no. I don't think I would feel there could be so much emotional contact, for some reason I think I would see them in a emotional sense as sterile? I know how rude, and wrong, that sounds but I think it's just because the only person I've ever met in a wheelchair was really boring and closed-book, so it's kind of associated in my mind. Unless of course I was with, and in love with them before they entered the wheelchair.

dear Lord. What a narrow minded attitude.

thats just like saying you met a boring black person once and now associate all black people to be like that. Actually, its worse.

emotionally sterile? I would think if anybody knew about emotion its somebody struggling day to day trapped in a wheel chair. Seems its you thats emotionally sterile tbh.

[joeysteele]

Originally Posted by Zippy

dear Lord. What a narrow minded attitude.

thats just like saying you met a boring black person once and now associate all black people to be like that. Actually, its worse.

emotionally sterile? I would think if anybody knew about emotion its somebody struggling day to day trapped in a wheel chair. Seems its you thats emotionally sterile tbh.

A really good post Zippy,well said.