[Judas]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

Why though? You can't judge every person in a wheel chair from 1 person you knew, that's crazy!

I know, it is awfull. It's just I don't think I could find them attractive. Maybe it's just part of me, I guess I see it as a weakness. And the whole 'sterile' thing I guess stems from the one person I do know who was more plain and bland than an A4 peice of paper. I know it's band to stereotype, but for some reason I just don't think I could date someone in a wheelchair. It's bad, but I think true for me.

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Judas

I know, it is awfull. It's just I don't think I could find them attractive. Maybe it's just part of me, I guess I see it as a weakness. And the whole 'sterile' thing I guess stems from the one person I do know who was more plain and bland than an A4 peice of paper. I know it's band to stereotype, but for some reason I just don't think I could date someone in a wheelchair. It's bad, but I think true for me.

yeah but there's plenty of able bodied people who are bland or emotionally sterile too I'm not saying you should date someone in a wheel chair, it was just the comment about them being emotionally sterile that I thought was a bit out of order!

[Judas]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

yeah but there's plenty of able bodied people who are bland or emotionally sterile too I'm not saying you should date someone in a wheel chair, it was just the comment about them being emotionally sterile that I thought was a bit out of order!

No I know, it's bad. I guess it would change if I met someone different, I guess it's just like when you meet a dick head with a certain name, and before you meet someone else nice with that name you just hate it. Also it may be the general look of being in chair, I know it's wrong but I would feel like I couldn't just spontaneously go for a hug or something. I realise what an ignorant dick I sound.

[BigBrotherfan4ever]

As a wheelchair user myself, im absolutely astonished with some of the people's attitudes on this forum, of people who are in a wheelchair, im a happily married woman, i live life to full as best i can.

[Stu]

Originally Posted by BigBrotherfan4ever

As a wheelchair user myself, im absolutely astonished with some of the people's attitudes on this forum, of people who are in a wheelchair, im a happily married woman, i live life to full as best i can.

I'm astonished at that attitude to be honest. If I was in a wheelchair I would fully understand and accept some peoples instinctive aversion to want to get into a relationship with me. That's just being realistic.

Is it any different to virtually every single one of us who have at some point internally turned down, ignored or walked away from a potential relationship or encounter with someone at a bar of club because he or she was simply physically not to our tastes?

Is that also a sick, disgusting thing? No it's just biology. The way we are. And obviously not all of us are the same as evident by the fact that you are married. But if I had a choice between two equally attractive and interesting people but one was in a wheelchair then I would go for the non wheelchair. I'm just being honest with you here so I hope that doesn't sound too harsh but come on. I'm obligated at the end of the day to tell the truth. Not everyone here will do that.
















I declare this can of worms open!

[Ithinkiloveyoutoo]

Originally Posted by BigBrotherfan4ever

As a wheelchair user myself, im absolutely astonished with some of the people's attitudes on this forum, of people who are in a wheelchair, im a happily married woman, i live life to full as best i can.

A huuuggggeee hug for you. I have nothing but respect. In a wheelchair I am sure you find things a lot harder than someone like me who still has use of her legs and yet you still see the bright side to life. Nothing but respect