[Z]

I'm getting a bit morbid because lunch is over an hour away but how do you want to go? Buried in a plot? Your own mausoleum? Cremated? Turned into a ring? Flaming funeral pyre sent out into the sea?

[Niamh.]

Cremated definitely and I would like mine and Gavs ashes to be mixed together and scattered

Buried. I love the idea of my rotting body becoming a mini eco-system and providing sustenance to the land and other animals. I'll have a biodegradable coffin as well

Death providing for life is beautifully poetic.

[Z]

Poll added. I think I'd like to be buried.

[Kate!]

Might as well go out in style... I'd definitely be cremated and I love the sea, so flaming funeral pyre seems the way to go.

[mizzy25]

im leaving my body to medical science, ive just made a will and its in there, then after 2 or 3 years when they finished with me il get cremated along with a load of other bodies that have been left to medical science.

[Z]

Originally Posted by mizzy25

im leaving my body to medical science, ive just made a will and its in there, then after 2 or 3 years when they finished with me il get cremated along with a load of other bodies that have been left to medical science.

That's very honourable of you Mizzy. Are you an organ donor or would that conflict with leaving your body to science?

[hijaxers]

Originally Posted by mizzy25

im leaving my body to medical science, ive just made a will and its in there, then after 2 or 3 years when they finished with me il get cremated along with a load of other bodies that have been left to medical science.

Have you applied to leave your body to medical science ? They won't take you unless you have prearranged ! There are criteria you have to meet , so just because you have stated this in your will won't mean they want you.

They are inundated with people wanting to - ya need to have something wrong with you they might be doing research into or the like.

[Marc]

:|

[Z]

Originally Posted by Marc

:|

You know the old saying Marc... "fail to prepare, prepare to die"

[Vicky.]

Did you know when someone gets cremated and you get their ashes, its not actually their ashes? My dad told me this a few weeks back at my grandmothers cremation. Apparently they only do the furnaces once or twice a week and they just give you dust rather than 'real' ashes.

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Vicky.

Did you know when someone gets cremated and you get their ashes, its not actually their ashes? My dad told me this a few weeks back at my grandmothers cremation. Apparently they only do the furnaces once or twice a week and they just give you dust rather than 'real' ashes.

[Z]

Originally Posted by Vicky.

Did you know when someone gets cremated and you get their ashes, its not actually their ashes? My dad told me this a few weeks back at my grandmothers cremation. Apparently they only do the furnaces once or twice a week and they just give you dust rather than 'real' ashes.

That's pretty bad :/

[Livia]

Originally Posted by Vicky.

Did you know when someone gets cremated and you get their ashes, its not actually their ashes? My dad told me this a few weeks back at my grandmothers cremation. Apparently they only do the furnaces once or twice a week and they just give you dust rather than 'real' ashes.

I was quite upset when I read this post and called the crematorium where my husband was cremated. And they assured me it was bullsh!t.

And as an edit:
I want to be cremated, and then this: http://www.heavenlystarsfireworks.com/

[Vicky.]

Originally Posted by Livia

I was quite upset when I read this post and called the crematorium where my husband was cremated. And they assured me it was bullsh!t.

And as an edit:
I want to be cremated, and then this: http://www.heavenlystarsfireworks.com/

I think, from reading around, it depends on the crematorium. If they are more interested in saving money, they just do all together. If they are more interested in doing things properly..they do it seperate and you actually get the ashes.

[hijaxers]

Originally Posted by Vicky.

Did you know when someone gets cremated and you get their ashes, its not actually their ashes? My dad told me this a few weeks back at my grandmothers cremation. Apparently they only do the furnaces once or twice a week and they just give you dust rather than 'real' ashes.

That is completely untrue ! People are cremated individually , crems have more than one furnace and bones are ground up in macerator to almost dust !

[Livia]

Originally Posted by hijaxers

That is completely untrue ! People are cremated individually , crems have more than one furnace and bones are ground up in macerator to almost dust !

That's almost exactly what I was told, hijaxers. Too much ridiculous information is available on Google, sadly. The crematorium I spoke to after reading Vicky's post told me that they try to be careful and respectful when dealing with people's remains and I choose to believe them. I'm sure there is a dark sense of humour involved in a job like that, as with any job that deals with danger or with death. But I don't believe they're all callous and uncaring.

[Vicky.]

Also one of my mums mates used to work in a cremation place, and they do not burn the coffin. They keep it to sell on. Or they did in the one he worked at.

I can well believe that, given the extortionate prices they get away with charging for them. I bet theres like 1000 coffins to go round the whole country and they just rotate them. They must love when people chose cremations rather than burials.

/morbid

[Z]

Originally Posted by Vicky.

Also one of my mums mates used to work in a cremation place, and they do not burn the coffin. They keep it to sell on. Or they did in the one he worked at.

I can well believe that, given the extortionate prices they get away with charging for them. I bet theres like 1000 coffins to go round the whole country and they just rotate them. They must love when people chose cremations rather than burials.

/morbid

Oh god! Pretty gruesome but it's probably been done for centuries! I'm not surprised about the ashes thing but it's so awful to do that; you want to be able to scatter the ashes of your loved one and not just... a bag of dust!

[Vicky.]

Originally Posted by Zee

Oh god! Pretty gruesome but it's probably been done for centuries! I'm not surprised about the ashes thing but it's so awful to do that; you want to be able to scatter the ashes of your loved one and not just... a bag of dust!

Meh. Its all just symbolic though isnt it. It makes no difference if its actually your loved one you are scattering, as long as you think it is.

Wat I thought about when he told me that is a friend a while back(like 10 years ) was grounded for 2 months for knocking her grandmothers ashes over. Her mother nearly had a breakdown over it. I'm sure that wouldnt have happened had she known it was just random dust

[Z]

Originally Posted by Vicky.

Meh. Its all just symbolic though isnt it. It makes no difference if its actually your loved one you are scattering, as long as you think it is.

Wat I thought about when he told me that is a friend a while back(like 10 years ) was grounded for 2 months for knocking her grandmothers ashes over. Her mother nearly had a breakdown over it. I'm sure that wouldnt have happened had she known it was just random dust

Yeah, I think it's just the principle behind it I've never understood why people keep ashes in their homes though... 1) it's so likely it'll be knocked over and 2) what are you achieving having it in your home?! I quite like the ring idea though where they compress your ashes and it gets turned into an heirloom of some kind. Pretty expensive but quite a cool thing to do I think.

[Z]

Originally Posted by Vicky.

Meh. Its all just symbolic though isnt it. It makes no difference if its actually your loved one you are scattering, as long as you think it is.

Wat I thought about when he told me that is a friend a while back(like 10 years ) was grounded for 2 months for knocking her grandmothers ashes over. Her mother nearly had a breakdown over it. I'm sure that wouldnt have happened had she known it was just random dust

Yeah, I think it's just the principle behind it I've never understood why people keep ashes in their homes though... 1) it's so likely it'll be knocked over and 2) what are you achieving having it in your home?! I quite like the ring idea though where they compress your ashes and it gets turned into an heirloom of some kind. Pretty expensive but quite a cool thing to do I think.

[Smithy]

You're making an awful lot of threads in general chat greg

[Z]

Originally Posted by Smithy

You're making an awful lot of threads in general chat greg

Oh sorry Smithy I'll just make one Lady Gaga thread and not shut the **** up about that instead

[kate2013]

cremated or left to medical science, Im a donor so not sure f they use what they can to give to others then chop it up?
If my body is cremated Id like the ashes spread over the park i use to play in as a kid and on the long rideway where i use to gallop my horse.