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Ashsleigh · 30-09-2015, 03:13 PM

Is it okay to date someone with the knowledge that your friend likes them, or should there be a rule against this in the imaginary friendship guide?

Would you be forgiving if you found out that your friend has just started dating your crush, them knowing that you liked them?

In contrast, would you proceed to date someone your friend had a crush on, or would you let them down gently and stick by your friend?

Holly Christmas · 30-09-2015, 03:17 PM

Depends how much I liked them personally. I'd tell my friend before letting anything happen though.

Liam- · 30-09-2015, 03:20 PM

As long as you don't go near a mate's ex or family members then everything else is fair game imo.

Cherry Christmas · 30-09-2015, 03:23 PM

I did this, we both liked him, but he asked me out, its not like I agreed to go out to spite her, I told her and she went cray cray on me

we fell out soon after as well and the friendship never recovered

Lostie! · 30-09-2015, 03:24 PM

I'd mention it to the friend and make sure they're okay with it first, otherwise it would feel a bit like a slap in the face.

Jason. · 30-09-2015, 03:26 PM

I personally don't see a problem with it. If you happen to like that person and that person happens to like you back, then I don't see why not. It's not like the friend who likes the person are an item, so it's not cheating or anything. Friend's ex is another story though.

Tom4784 · 30-09-2015, 03:27 PM

If I was the friend that liked someone but they liked my friend better then i'd just get over it and let them be happy. I'd like to believe my friends would think if they were in the same shoes too.

ChristmasNeeve · 30-09-2015, 03:27 PM

Sounds a bit like a teenage high school girl problem

Lostie! · 30-09-2015, 03:27 PM

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Originally Posted by BB6

Friend's ex is another story though.

I don't even think that's an issue if the friend is over them. If not, then obviously it's not a good idea but otherwise, what's the harm?

JoshBB · 30-09-2015, 03:29 PM

Ask your friend how they'd feel first.. I'm sure they'd be okay with it but you wouldnt want them feeling betrayed

Jason. · 30-09-2015, 03:30 PM

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Originally Posted by Lostie!

I don't even think that's an issue if the friend is over them. If not, then obviously it's not a good idea but otherwise, what's the harm?

True, but I'd find it quite uncomfortable

Cherry Christmas · 30-09-2015, 03:30 PM

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Originally Posted by Niamh.

Sounds a bit like a teenage high school girl problem

I was in my early 20s

Cherry Christmas · 30-09-2015, 03:30 PM

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Originally Posted by BB6

Truem, but I'd find it quite uncomfortable

It is

Ashsleigh · 30-09-2015, 03:30 PM

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Originally Posted by Niamh.

Sounds a bit like a teenage high school girl problem

That's what I thought

But a friend of mine was telling me about this love triangle ting so I thought I'd ask you lot

(probably should throw the disclaimer that I'm not involved in the triangle, I'm on the outside of this

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kirklancaster · 30-09-2015, 03:41 PM

If your 'friend' is really your friend, and if you are genuinely attracted to the other party, and he/she is genuinely attracted to you, then where's the problem? Your friend should understand. If you 'cried off' because of your friend and the other party does not fancy them, then they still won't go with your friend anyway, and everyone loses out.

Ashsleigh · 30-09-2015, 03:48 PM

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Originally Posted by kirklancaster

If your 'friend' is really your friend, and if you are genuinely attracted to the other party, and he/she is genuinely attracted to you, then where's the problem? Your friend should understand. If you 'cried off' because of your friend and the other party does not fancy them, then they still won't go with your friend anyway, and everyone loses out.

I think there's two types of people in this situation.

1. This person will think that they'd be doing a good deed by shunning the guy. It gives them the feeling that they've done something good and beneficial by sparing their friends feelings. They might also feel that they will be rewarded by their friend for this deed.

2. This person finds it difficult to resist temptation/pass opportunities. They're more likely to feel regret for shunning the guy, in favour of their friend's trust.

I do agree, that the guy, I suppose, "picked" one girl over the other, so the other friend has to move on either way.

Cherry Christmas · 30-09-2015, 03:49 PM

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Originally Posted by kirklancaster

If your 'friend' is really your friend, and if you are genuinely attracted to the other party, and he/she is genuinely attracted to you, then where's the problem? Your friend should understand. If you 'cried off' because of your friend and the other party does not fancy them, then they still won't go with your friend anyway, and everyone loses out.

Try telling that to the bitter friend who thinks you should give up your chance as well

smudgie · 30-09-2015, 04:48 PM

*cough* I wouldn't dare comment

Anything goes as long as they are not in a committed relationship.

Christmas Dynasnow · 30-09-2015, 04:50 PM

Bro,'s before ho's

jennyjuniper · 30-09-2015, 04:51 PM

Ask her what she would do if the one you both fancy wanted to date her. Would she do it? If she says no, but there are tell tale signs she's lying, or if she says yes, then feel free to date him.

Daniel-X · 30-09-2015, 04:54 PM

One of my friends and the girl she was best friends with (I don't really like this girl) both had liked the same boy for ages the one I don't like ending up speaking to him outside of school through FB and stuff and they ended up in a sort of courting relationship but they weren't officially together. The boy called off things with the girl I don't like because he had feelings for my friend instead. The girl I am friends with and the boy are now in sort of a courting relationship.

The girls don't speak anymore they didn't fall out they just don't speak because it's awkward.

The girl I don't like knew my friend had liked the boy since like year eight (I'm in Y11) but she said she'd liked him this long which is a lie because she'd been in two relationships before she got with this boy.

Some people are one the side of my friends and others are on the side of the girl I don't like. Some can see both sides.