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Originally Posted by Niamh.

I so want my kids to be happy but also safe and not taken advantage of

That’s my thoughts on it too, which is why I say it’s about the age of the younger partner rather than the actual “gap”. Of course people can ALWAYS be taken advantage of but I’d be fairly confident that a 30+ year old knows what they’re doing as much as they ever will… a young person in their late teens and early 20’s is just too likely to be easily manipulated by a much older person with vastly more world experience for me to be comfortable with it. I struggle to see how a 50 year old can see a 20 year old as anything but a kid, if I can’t at 36.