[lostalex]

I will just say this. My mom died in 2005. And i didn't want to have anything to do with the funeral preparations. does that mean that i didn't love my mother? does that mean that i'm selfish and horrible? i had some family members that judged me based on that.

I would submit to people, that unless you have had such a major loss in your life, you don't know how you would respond.

Me not wanting to have anything to do with my mom's funeral had nothing at all to do with how much i loved her, and in many ways it was the exact opposite.

Does it not occur to anyone that maybe some people don't want to have anything to do with a funeral because maybe yu arn't very happy to be planning a PARTY for someone's death, that maybe you need to deal with that loss in your own way, and maybe you need to do things in your own way and in your own time.

When it comes to death i think people need to keep their opinions to themselves.