[lostalex]

I will just say this. My mom died in 2005. And i didn't want to have anything to do with the funeral preparations. does that mean that i didn't love my mother? does that mean that i'm selfish and horrible? i had some family members that judged me based on that.

I would submit to people, that unless you have had such a major loss in your life, you don't know how you would respond.

Me not wanting to have anything to do with my mom's funeral had nothing at all to do with how much i loved her, and in many ways it was the exact opposite.

Does it not occur to anyone that maybe some people don't want to have anything to do with a funeral because maybe yu arn't very happy to be planning a PARTY for someone's death, that maybe you need to deal with that loss in your own way, and maybe you need to do things in your own way and in your own time.

When it comes to death i think people need to keep their opinions to themselves.

[alex_front2]

Originally Posted by lostalex

I will just say this. My mom died in 2005. And i didn't want to have anything to do with the funeral preparations. does that mean that i didn't love my mother? does that mean that i'm selfish and horrible? i had some family members that judged me based on that.

I would submit to people, that unless you have had such a major loss in your life, you don't know how you would respond.

Me not wanting to have anything to do with my mom's funeral had nothing at all to do with how much i loved her, and in many ways it was the exact opposite.

Does it not occur to anyone that maybe some people don't want to have anything to do with a funeral because maybe yu arn't very happy to be planning a PARTY for someone's death, that maybe you need to deal with that loss in your own way, and maybe you need to do things in your own way and in your own time.

When it comes to death i think people need to keep their opinions to themselves.

Don't take this personally but you're personal circumstance is of no interest to me and maybe you should not use it to justify dictating what people can and can't say. I WILL speculate about Scot. This is a discussion forum, Scot is on TV to be discussed and one of the few SLs with Scot is his possible bereavement. You don't like me discussing it, tough.

[Livia]

Originally Posted by alex_front2

Don't take this personally but you're personal circumstance is of no interest to me and maybe you should not use it to justify dictating what people can and can't say. I WILL speculate about Scot. This is a discussion forum, Scot is on TV to be discussed and one of the few SLs with Scot is his possible bereavement. You don't like me discussing it, tough.

Don't you take this personally... everyone's personal circumstances colours everything they think and do, and sometimes using your own personal circumstances justifies your own opinions. We've heard an awful lot about your own personal circumstances, after all.

Everyone treats death differently and everyone copes differently. There is no right or wrong way, only what's right or wrong for you.

[lostalex]

Originally Posted by alex_front2

Don't take this personally but you're personal circumstance is of no interest to me and maybe you should not use it to justify dictating what people can and can't say. I WILL speculate about Scot. This is a discussion forum, Scot is on TV to be discussed and one of the few SLs with Scot is his possible bereavement. You don't like me discussing it, tough.

i never dictated what anyone can and can't say around here. I'm not a mod and i have no power over what people can and can't say. I only gave my opinion.