[Vicky.]

Very very controversial and emotive topic this. Please try to keep it 'nice' and not resort to insulting each other over differing viewpoints. Also please dont turn this into a 'pro life' thread. Saying 'noone should ever have an abortion' doesnt help really as I dont think we will ever be at a stage (in the uk anyway) where abortion is not an option..so this situation will always be a problem

At the moment, a woman can chose to ignore a mans wishes totally and abort his child. Or ignore his wishes and go on to have the child, and then expect him to support it aswell.

Some will say the man could just not have sex and thus not have a chance of the woman getting pregnant. But that argument could be used for the woman too..except that if she does fall pregnant..SHE has a choice. He does not.

By not giving the man the choice, you are forcing him to sit back and allow his child to be killed. Or to be responsible for a child he did not want.

However, if the man did have the choice, you are forcing the woman to carry on with a pregnancy that will change her body, change her life, and can in some cases endanger her life too. Or you are forcing her to effectively kill her own child.

I dont think that this is one that will ever have a definitive answer really...as no matter what happens, its unfair on someone. However I agree with things the way they are at the moment. While I appreciate how bad it must be for men to have babies aborted when they desperately want them..or for a man to become a father when he doesnt want to be...I cannot imagine the mental torture of being forced to go through pregnancy and giving birth..or actually going through with an abortion that you do NOT want to have.