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Originally Posted by Ultimist

As a Gary fan, I've never said he is perfect. I'm sure some of the issues brought up by other housemates had at least *some* truth to them.

However,

I found that in many cases, they were exaggerating, and sometimes outright lying, as when Dee denied calling Gary a bitter old man.

I fully understand that some of Gary's habits may have been hard to live with... but I still say when someone is that age, has had a brain injury and several surgeries, has a profound hearing problem, the best thing you can do for them is CUT THEM SOME SLACK. Life is difficult enough for someone in that condition. They don't need a bunch of heartless, selfish, immature and verbally abusive people getting on their case, ON TOP OF what they already have to deal with on a daily basis.

It's called understanding and compassion, people.

Elderly people sometimes lose control of their bodily functions. It comes with age. YOUR body will deteriorate over time, as well... Everyone's eventually does, and I can bet that at that time, you will want people to be understanding of what you're going through.

Gary took everything people said on board, and tried to meet their requirements. He clearly tried to make improvements once an issue was made clear to him.

Conversely, do you think for one moment that James would try to NOT act so pompous and better than everyone else, if he were asked to do so?

Do you think Dee would take criticism on board and try to change if she were told what was wrong with her? HELL NO.

Do you think "poor little" Leslie could be told all the things he does wrong, and then learn to appreciate the feedback and use it to improve himself?

Gary is MILES ahead of the rest of them, as far as self-awareness goes. And he's humble, not a braggart like the rest of them. He doesn't pretend to be better than the rest of them, but nearly all of them pretend to be better than him.

As I mentioned in another thread, just look at the way he spoke lovely things about all of them, even though they've done nothing but complain about him, call him every name in the book, and slag him off in every way possible. That's the difference between someone with class, and someone who needs to attend a few (classes).

The right person won CBB Summer 2014. If you don't like that fact, there's little you can do, and I'm laughing at you.

No one's going to bully ME.

Always the voice of reason.