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Originally Posted by Toy Soldier

I would add though be wary of getting a less than pleasant response as it's likely that the family is already under strain and people can react badly to well-meaning intentions when under that sort of stress. Approach it gently but also try to be understanding if you get a less than polite reply... it will just be coming from a bad place.

Yeah, you're right but it's the decent thing to do to tell her family first I think, give a chance to do something about it without embarrassing the old lady