[Vicky.]

https://www.prospectmagazine.co.uk/l...rvey-weinstein

We men can talk and we can tweet all we like about Harvey Weinstein—and I think that, so long as we are finding ways to keep pressure on those who enabled him for so long, we need to. But we can also do something much more difficult, which is to look closest to home, and to our friends.

I think that men are afraid of calling out misogyny for a couple of reasons. One reason is that they fear they are misogynists themselves. Another reason is that they are worried about holding themselves out as beacons of virtue, so that when they fall short of these publicly announced standards they will receive a firestorm of criticism.

These reasons are connected, in that they both relate to how men view themselves, or want to be viewed. In other words, they have nothing to do with the horrors that women are currently enduring due to misogyny. Those fears are keeping the scaffolding of misogyny firmly in place, and it’s time many more of us overcame them, or at least tried to.

This article, written by a bloke has hit the nail on the head for me. What with this whole #metoo thing going on all over social media...and the fact that male sexual violence against women is an absolute epidemic with most women having experienced harassment/assault/rape at some stage in their lives...

Women have asked for ever for males to stop abusing us (as a class, not as individual people) and it hasn't worked. We have asked nicely, and not so nicely. And nothing changes.

I genuinely do think male people need to start doing as much as they can to call out misogynistic language and such. I do believe there are more 'nice guys' out there than bad ones, the problem seems to be, so many of the nice guys do not challenge the bad ones. For whatever reason.

To me this article is beautifully written. And highlights so many issues surrounding this epidemic.

Please, no focusing on 'not all men are like that' or 'females commit sexual violence too'. Everyone with half a brain knows this already. But to deny this is a very male problem, is pretty silly.