[Jamie89]

Originally Posted by Vicky.

Thing is, which area do men receive poorer treatment than women? I know the family courts are brought up a lot but thats not based on sex, it goes on who does the majority of childcare...which just usually happens to be the woman in most cases...so yes, women get custody in most cases. Like, if me and my husband divorced tomorrow, he would 'get the kids' because he gets up with them each morning, he takes them to school, he does most of the childcare.

Now if we were a more 'traditional' (read old fashioned ) family where I did the childcare and he worked, then I would probably 'get them' and would also generally get child support awarded (which is for the kids, not the parent)

Obviously if there has been abuse or something then who does the bulk of the childcare is disregarded though so that the kids are safe. But our family courts (not sure about in other countries, am talking about the UK) are definitely not this 'award custody to the female' type thing. Its about disrupting the childrens lives the least.


I am all for fighting for things where men are actually genuinely disadvantaged. Just it seems, I cannot actually think of one of these areas. I don't think anyone should be treat more or less favourably because of their sex. Though there are some areas of life where sex matters (things like sports, prisons...anywhere where biology is important)

I don't mean in terms of laws I just mean in general life that if there is an instance of it then I'd consider it to fall under the same thing of gender inequality. I don't think I've ever been discriminated against for being a man so it's hard to give examples lol, in fact I'd say I've probably benefited from sexism to a degree as a lot of men probably have at some point or another, but I'm speaking more generally that sometimes there are instances of it, I suppose one example could be that some people don't take male victims of domestic abuse seriously. Or if you have an employer that prefers female employees then of course it's an area where women are more disadvantaged broadly speaking, but if there is an instance of it happening the other way around then I'd consider it to still be an individual example of sexism, and I'm just saying that when it happens it should be considered part of the same problem, rather than being dismissed for being less frequent. Like it's not one side vs the other, if feminism is about equality then theoretically we should treat all issues that may arise from gender inequality the same.