[Vicky.]

Originally Posted by Marsh.

If there is no "right" way to react to this situation as people can, and do, react different to all manner of things, then why do we have "experts" telling us their demeanour is exactly that of an abuse victim (or in some cases not typical of an abuse victim)?

If the victim can act any and all ways depending on the individual circumstances, the length of time, the type of abuse, the type of person etc etc etc?

Which experts? I am fairly sure I haven't seen that because, well experts know that its so different for each person..as it has been studied, extensively. An expert might of course say 'their behaviour is totally normal for a victim', but this is pretty much because..well any reaction is normal for a victim, and grooming seems to make it even more confusing than random pervs.

There is a more 'typical/common way' I would imagine (for example it seems pretty 'usual' for people to speak out after having kids), but any reaction/behaviour is 'normal' as there is such a wide range..