[rusticgal]

Originally Posted by Amy Jade

Good for you. I'm happy you managed but others haven't through absolutely no fault of their own so making out that anyone who hasn't is lazy because 'you get what you give' is ignorant.

My and my boyfriend were saving to buy our first home together, before the pandemic we both worked - I as a home care assistant and he as a bar tender (at slug and lettuce) and in a gym and a side job as a personal trainer. As soon as lockdown hit he had absolutely no work at all, his contract in the bar was gone because it was 0 hours and he couldn't do any personal training so he was massively out of pocket, none of was his fault and he worked 6 - 7 days a week before. He hot a job picking for a supermarket straight away but obviously the wages were incredibly different. How was any of that his fault? What more would you have him do?

Your boyfriend is an example of what Kaz says though...you get out what you put in. Your boyfriend was like many finding himself with a loss of income...but he went out and found himself some work enabling him to bring 'something' in rather than nothing. Its a work ethic...and a good work ethic..soon enough your boyfriend will be back to where he left off and earning better money but in the meantime he didnt sit on his backside feeling sorry for himself.
My son was the same...so he got himself a job with the NHS at the testing centre...13/14hr shifts but at least he was earning and topping up his savings and now he is in a new job.
Thats the point being made and its an admirable one.