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Originally Posted by Redway

Ditto with the way my mum cried when hers died (it wasn't extreme or anything, just heart-breaking). My grandma was ill for the best part of 18 months before she died but there were times when she was actually much better, including the month or two before she died. And the saddest thing is that she wasn't even old (barely 64).

Yes my own mum died at 60, though as above I'd say it was 59 and she didn't really see 60 - she was heavily sedated in hospital on her 60th birthday and not aware of what was going on around her. She died about 2 weeks after that.

It feels like an endless cycle at times - my mum died of multiple organ failure due to alcoholism and the fact that she drank on top of a load of prescription medication for depression, anxiety and pain (her liver went first, her whole body followed quickly).

Her own depression and alcoholism was sparked by caring for her OWN mother while she was dying. She was hit by a car and suffered a serious head injury, declined over about 3 months during which my mum cared for her in our home and she died there. She never got over that and it was the catalyst for her own death in the end.