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Originally Posted by Soldier Boy

I sadly had the same experience Annie and I just found the whole thing so utterly sad and pointless. I don't think she was suffering because she was medicated and sedated to the point that she wouldn't have been aware of anything, likely not even dreaming, effectively dead already but with weeks of watching her organs fail and her practically starting to decay there in the bed while she was still breathing. I have seemingly permanent images of the scene imprinted on my mind that are haunting. My sister who was by her bedside 24/7 has honestly not been the same since, and it was 9 years ago. There was NO point, NO benefit to her being left to die slowly like that, other than to cause trauma in her family, the last thing she would ever have wanted.

I don't mean to be graphic but I think it's important to be honest. It's not like Hollywood.

Ditto with the way my mum cried when hers died (it wasn't extreme or anything, just heart-breaking). My grandma was ill for the best part of 18 months before she died but there were times when she was actually much better, including the month or two before she died. And the saddest thing is that she wasn't even old (barely 64).