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Well it's been emotional , peeps
I've been giving this a ridiculous amount of thought and for my own sanity and mental health I have decided to throw in the towel . I'm finding it harder and harder to remain positive and happy in the real world (the all important place ) Sadly , my moods and anxieties mirror my experiences in this very forum and of late it's been absolutely horrendous and getting worse by the day I try and fit in , I really do , but I have far more enemies or detractors than friends in here so it's always going to be a struggle It's got to the stage where I am hesitant about adding a comment for fear of either being contradicted or even mocked or ridiculed .. Maybe some of us are simply not cut out for the life of a keyboard warrior - certainly not thin skinned people like myself . Never say never ... and one day I may decide to brave these choppy waters once again but probably not ... I've taken a few self imposed breaks in the past but my detractors in here unfortunately have good memories and soon start pressing the buttons they know will annoy or upset me Bye Last edited by Zizu; 21-10-2025 at 08:29 PM. |
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This Witch doesn't burn
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Zizu just put the people who wind you up on ignore, unless someone quotes them you wont see their posts
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Piss orf.
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Sometimes it's good to make posts like that, just to get things of your chest.
Do whatever you want. Thanks for the reading material. |
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Shhiiiieet 2 yrs l8ta
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Oh Zizu hush and come watch Big brother with us
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Shhiiiieet 2 yrs l8ta
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In any case if it truly feels overwhelming for you at the moment, it's ok to take a mental health break but doesn't mean you have to leave
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You can put people on ignore, that's what I do. You don't have to interact with the people you don't get on with.
It's impossible to get on with everyone anyway.
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You have to allow people to give their opinions, just like you give yours, and allow them to disagree with you without calling them obtuse (as you do). I haven’t seen anyone really laying into you this past week. Just disagreeing. I’m sorry you feel this way (I guess) but this isn’t the first time you’ve made a thread like this, and you know you’ll be back. Maybe make whatever breaks you genuinely want to take preempt the inevitable ‘I say I’m going but we all know I’ll be back next week, if not tomorrow’ thread that’s a timeless hallmark of FMs across the fora in-general who have no real intention of going anywhere.
The bottom line is you can’t keep giving opinions without getting any back. That’s not how forums work, and it doesn’t make someone inherently an enemy. Always circling back to that when people don’t find your favourite housemates (or agree either whatever-else you’re getting across) as endearing or (on a more shallow note) sexy as you do is very, very, very frustrating. But if you do take a break (a temporary one, no-less), come back with that in mind and more accountability. That lack of accountability naturally stirs people the wrong way. If you want to irritate people less, start with that, alongside accepting that people have opinions that they have just as much right to express as you. You and I are not two people who see eye-to-eye but I’m not sitting around crying about it. It’s more of an irritation with you than it is something that would actually make me despondent. You really need to grow up and take accountability for yourself. You’re 67, not 17. I think it’s high time you remembered that and started acting your age, instead of using “thin skin” and neurodivergence (and, listen, practically half the world is neurodivergent at this point) as a get-out-of-having-to-tolerate-others’-opinions-while-I-give-provocative-ones-myself-all-the-time card. You need to grow.
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Your commitment to this forum is inspiring…we all go over the top sometimes but they are your opinions and we love them even if we don’t agree.
But you have to do what’s best for you..but you will be sorely missed Zizu ![]() |
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Zizu, stay, please mate.
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Senior Moment
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I feel this post a lot, a few years back I was in the same place, this forum went from somewhere that was fun to post to just being infected with miserable endless political arguing, honestly stepping back and only posting every now and again was one of the best decisions I made
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I’m not even trying to hound on him at this point. I just don’t think we’re doing him any favours by encouraging him to say he’s too thin-skinned to accept people (even moderators) having different opinions to him.
On the open forum at-least all I’ve seen this past week is people disagreeing with him and sharing their own opinions about housemates. But the problem with Zizu is he wants to be able to give all manner of opinions (some of them really quite misogynistic and objectifying) without getting any back, otherwise people are being “obtuse” (as he loves to put it) and victimising/bullying him. That’s not on. And I don’t think we should be enabling that lack of two-sided reciprocity and lack of accountability. The way his conditions affect him, like I said elsewhere, is merely a lens, not a shield to duck him out of anyone having a bad word to say about his favourite housemates or his views on women. One of his favourite housemates (Ali from last year) identifies as AuDHD but she still takes accountability for herself, just like most people on that side of the spectrum (if Ali’s even on it) do. It’s only Zizu who says he has no control over what he posts whatsoever, and that’s a him-problem, not a neurodivergent-problem. Hijacking threads so bad the the OP ducks out with his infatuation with “pretty girls” (Ammi’s thread about Elsa being a decent example) is also a him-problem, whether he genuinely thinks it’s all in good faith and completely oblivious to how inappropriate it is or not. None of this is a one-time rodeo for him. It’s a pattern. And he brings it all on himself so I can have no sympathy for the guy. If he needs a break, he needs a break, but he makes threads like this all the time and comes back within the hour. But people disagreeing with you (“contradicting you”; I mean, really, Zizu?) shouldn’t be what’s driving you away in any case. His opinions aren’t worth more than anyone-else’s on this forum. He needs to reckon with that and deal with it, instead of thinking he can say and do whatever he likes but duck for cover every time he gets an opinion back. But the reality is he’ll be back and he won’t change or take accountability for anything he says, which is pretty sad for someone in their late 60s. I’m guessing this isn’t the last of such threads from him. He’ll be munching on a ham buttie and saying ‘adios, I’m too thin skinned for the stick I get on here’ and that’ll be that. It’s quite pathetic if anything.
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another vice
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Nooo don't leave
![]() We don't always agree (def did last series with Ali though!) but I always like reading your posts/opinions, hope you'll change your mind and stay!! Last edited by caprimint; Yesterday at 06:29 AM. |
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Quand il pleut, il pleut
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…Zizu, Zizu, Zizu…I did see your thread yesterday evening but I was very tired so didn’t add anything then….it’s hard to know what to say because if your moods/anxieties as you say, are transferring to offline life and if those anxieties are becoming very heightened because of forum activity then that’s obviously something that I would never wish for you…if you feel as though your emotional well-being is being very negatively impacted, you know…?…
…all I can say is, that there are other levels of ‘stepping back’ without leaving, it doesn’t have to be that definite extreme of one thing or another, you know…?… I know that you have many things that you struggle with and find very difficult and I do understand that BB season probably heightens that struggle …but for all of us/no matter what our particular struggles are/because no one is without them in life…?…it’s all about coping skills, isn’t it….and learning and developing those and applying them when we need to…?…in leaving, it would feel more of an ‘opt out’, rather than a time to practise coping mechanisms so that BB season doesn’t have that same negative impact on you…?…is just a thought, anyway…to distract in other areas or topics or etc whenever you feel the need, while still sharing the things that you like to share on a forum/site that you like to be on…and I do believe in general and overall etc, TiBB is somewhere that you like to be…. …after BB is over…(….which really when you think about it, isn’t too far off..)…we’ll be heading into the Festive/Christmas season which will be such a positive vibe and will help to set that balance for you…and then you’ll start to make sense of it all again, with many feel good times… ![]() …anyway, always wishing you well… ![]()
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Remembering Kerry
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Maybe a break will do you good but I'd hope you would feel able to post again whenever you felt you'd like to. It took me near 10 years to find the way to cope with unfair baiting and being jumped on as to TIBB. I used to get worked up many times. Now I say my piece and leave it and any responses to what I say that I find inappropriate, unacceptable or offensive I just leave them to it and avoid any responding from myself further. There's very few I need to do that with. However it did take me near 10 years, ![]() I hope you are okay Zizu, I for one would be welcoming you back on here if and when you may decide to return Take care, look after yourself and sending you my very best thoughts. |
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self-oscillating
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i will miss you Zizu, don't let things get to uou personally
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Shhiiiieet 2 yrs l8ta
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Zizu. How are you?
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Always keep your eyes on the prize Last edited by Ithinkiloveyoutoo; Yesterday at 11:24 PM. |
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I’m good !! Thank you for asking .. Still suffering with the flu / man flu / covid or whatever but I think I made the right decision to quit the forum - it was a relief when I finally made the decision I have replied to this particular post as it was a direct question ( coming from a good place I think) and I felt it deserved a response . It’s a good time/place to maybe tie a few loose ends up/off .. My biggest regret is that so many in here hold lasting grudges so once you cross them you are done for .. such a negative and toxic trait One of my favourite people in here is Swan .. we often fell out - usually about football / but the next day it would be forgotten - even though I occasionally drove him absolutely crazy we would often be in total agreement about something soon after - that’s healthy ! Others like Mystic and Kate were always there for me and oddly/coincidentally I rarely disagreed with any of their points or views .. I didn’t care for a few of Redway’s parting comments especially the suggestion I was always crying wolf - he said I was forever making threads / threats to leave but never did .. Now to my knowledge I have only made two such threats/ threads… my latest one and maybe a year or two ago … so that’s twice in what . 15 years and 40,000 + posts ?? I made a thread to apologise for being irritating and irritable and said I was having a self enforced break last week but that doesn’t count surely !?! ( oh Redway you asked about the rat in the other thread … it didn’t go up , inside my jeans - it ran up my leg OUTSIDE the jeans then I ran off screaming ) Back to the serious stuff .. Some questioned my concerns for Elsa We know she was adopted at a very young age of 3 or 4 and we know the frailties / personality disorders associated with that kind of trauma ( some don’t care they just hate her for some reason ) … Anyways at the start of every big brother series- once we know the names of the housemates I research them all thoroughly .. The one thing that hit me about Elsa in particular wasn’t that she was an ‘internet influencer’ with half a million online followers (that seemed to irritate a lot in here ) it was that she had had a long term , volatile relationship with a slightly older internet ‘star’ named Ed Matthews also a celebrity boxer / fighter since she was a school girl … So I researched their relationship .. They’ve been together since she was 15 years old and they have a crazy on off relationship .. you all know how needy she is -he does something to cause each break up but she always takes him back .. not a healthy state of affairs by any means! You can check through his TikTok clips but be prepared to be shocked ! They only split up this time because she decided to go into the big brother house and he was totally against it What concerns me most is that he’s out there when she leaves and will most probably go back to him .. Oh and so many questioned why Elsa nominated Tate .. with so many odd theories given … Didn’t she say she was disappointed he’d upset her BEST friend Teja and he said they didn’t really get on or something ..even though he never tried to talk to her ?? That seemed to be a more than clear enough explanation … tbh Bye !! Edit For those who are reading this lengthy post and don’t know … I am autistic so that’s why I ‘present’ as being a bit weird … Last edited by Zizu; Today at 11:04 AM. |
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Quand il pleut, il pleut
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…I have read all of your post/thoughts, Zizu…I mean, it’s not really for me to comment on any of it because that’s how you feel and those are your thoughts…the most important thing is your own well-being and whether you want to be here and discuss things like Zelda and BB and all other things that you like to discuss…/…and whether that impacts you in negative ways that you feel that you’re happier not to be…?…those are things for you to decide because as I say, your well-being is all important…
…I don’t really want to get into anything about Elsa in this just because I don’t personally think that it’s appropriate for me to…whatever decisions she makes for her future in any area of her life etc…she’s a grown woman and she’ll make her own choices and follow those paths …did you see her mom on the late show…?…she obviously knows Elsa…well, the most of anyone I would think and knows all of her vulnerabilities but she also knows her strengths because she has those as well…and she showed every confidence and support in Elsa so for me, I’ll follow that guidance and continue to support her…because no matter what their story as a housemate, all we can do is support …anyway, if you feel as though you want to post in Elsa’s fan thread which is completely to support her…?…well, we’ll see you there, hopefully…
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Zizu strong opinions will always get strong replies
Just because people fight their corner doesn’t mean they don’t like you Without your opinions they would have no one to reply to The main thing is keeping yourself in a good space if that’s off the forum then that’s the right decision to make |
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