[Niamh.]

I would rather have survived, obviously it would be really hard to come to terms with but my kids are young and I would definitely rather be around for their sake, to make sure they're ok and see them grow up

lol, snap Lee, I think most parents would put their vanity aside to be there for their kids

[lostalex]

Originally Posted by happyland

If I was left looking like the elephant man but still had the chance to see my kids grow up, I would feel like the luckiest person in the world.

and what if you didn't have kids, and couldn't find a partner because you were so ugly that you give up on the chance of ever finding someone to love you and have kids with?? what then?

It's easy to say beauty is on the inside, but how many of us here have ever dated someone so hideously deformed?

Let's not sugar coat things, Sex is an important part of any relationship, and if you are disfigured to the point that you are not physically attractive yu will be lonely. Even if you have enuf money to attract someone, you will still know deep down that yu are physically repulsive and not physically attractive to that person, so really you are cheating that person out of a fullfilling sex life. that's incredibly selfish.

let's be real.

[lostalex]

Life is about more than just partnering though. So i'd be happy to be alive with or without anyone else's love. I love myself enuf to not need to burden anyone else.

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by lostalex

and what if you didn't have kids, and couldn't find a partner because you were so ugly that you give up on the chance of ever finding someone to love you and have kids with?? what then?

It's easy to say beauty is on the inside, but how many of us here have ever dated someone so hideously deformed?

Let's not sugar coat things, Sex is an important part of any relationship, and if you are disfigured to the point that you are not physically attractive yu will be lonely. Even if you have enuf money to attract someone, you will still know deep down that yu are physically repulsive and not physically attractive to that person, so really you are cheating that person out of a fullfilling sex life. that's incredibly selfish.

let's be real.

That's a good point and maybe I would feel differently in that case

[Lee.]

Originally Posted by lostalex

and what if you didn't have kids, and couldn't find a partner because you were so ugly that you give up on the chance of ever finding someone to love you and have kids with?? what then?

It's easy to say beauty is on the inside, but how many of us here have ever dated someone so hideously deformed?

Let's not sugar coat things, Sex is an important part of any relationship, and if you are disfigured to the point that you are not physically attractive yu will be lonely. Even if you have enuf money to attract someone, you will still know deep down that yu are physically repulsive and not physically attractive to that person, so really you are cheating that person out of a fullfilling sex life. that's incredibly selfish.

let's be real.

I'm not sugar coating things Alex.. I'm talking about me personally ad I do have two young children and I have a terrible fear of anything happening to me and not being there for them or seeing them grow up.

However, I do agree with you.. I'm not so sure if I'd feel so lucky if I was single and childless.

[lostalex]

Originally Posted by happyland

I'm not sugar coating things Alex.. I'm talking about me personally ad I do have two young children and I have a terrible fear of anything happening to me and not being there for them or seeing them grow up.

However, I do agree with you.. I'm not so sure if I'd feel so lucky if I was single and childless.

I didn't mean you were sugar coating things, i just meant in general. Obviously you having children completely rules your perspective, i'm sure you would endure any torture and any suffering you had to if it meant seeing your children just 1 more time. Any parent would i assume.

[Livia]

Originally Posted by joeysteele

I'd feel lucky I still had life, I wouldn't care as to the facial disfigurement,I would still be me and if others couldn't see past that,that's their problem not mine.

I would be really glad to be alive and so no,I would not want to have died.

You retore my faith in people, joeysteele. I was beginning to despair of all the people who would rather be dead than unattractive.

To quote the inimitable Judge Judy... Beauty fades, but dumb is forever.

[Grimnir]

I would feel lucky they not finish me off.
The attackers would be feeling very unlucky cos I would hunt them down and go all Keyzer Soze on their arse.
Then I would become a vigilante comic book character, think up a cool name for myself, get armed with lots of guns, grenades and do training.
Hunt down criminals and wipe them out until dead or captured

[joeysteele]

Originally Posted by Livia

You retore my faith in people, joeysteele. I was beginning to despair of all the people who would rather be dead than unattractive.

To quote the inimitable Judge Judy... Beauty fades, but dumb is forever.

Thank you so much Livia, I believe life is precious.

Also to repay the compliment a little, I agree with near all and respect what you say also,I have learned a fair bit from you on many topics on this forum.

(I also love Judge Judy,she has some great one-liners).