[Ammi]

I don't know whether I would tell them..I very much doubt one hour before the wedding that they would listen anyway and all it would do is make me the enemy..and they would really need friends more than ever. And I know that may make people question whther I was a true friend..but this could have been a one off and I wouldn't know how accurate the facts were or any circumstances..so there's nothing to say they wouldn't go on to have a very happy marriage.

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Ammi

I don't know whether I would tell them..I very much doubt one hour before the wedding that they would listen anyway and all it would do is make me the enemy..and they would really need friends more than ever. And I know that may make people question whther I was a true friend..but this could have been a one off and I wouldn't know how accurate the facts were or any circumstances..so there's nothing to say they wouldn't go on to have a very happy marriage.

You did say an affair in your OP rather than a one night stand

[Ammi]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

You did say an affair in your OP rather than a one night stand

..yeah sorry what I meant was it could be over..in the past..and she's made her choice
..I do agree with MTVN though..if I were to say anything it would be to her..but I think she should be the one to tell him..and I think she's the only one he would listen to

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Ammi

..yeah sorry what I meant was it could be over..in the past..and she's made her choice
..I do agree with MTVN though..if I were to say anything it would be to her..but I think she should be the one to tell him..and I think she's the only one he would listen to

I just think an affair is in such a different league to a one night stand.....even if it was over, you have other things like lying right to your friends face on top of the actual cheating. If it were me I would rather know if my future husband had done that to me before I got married

[Mrluvaluva]

Originally Posted by Ammi

..yeah sorry what I meant was it could be over..in the past..and she's made her choice
..I do agree with MTVN though..if I were to say anything it would be to her..but I think she should be the one to tell him..and I think she's the only one he would listen to

So the affair is now over?

I think if your friend was truly a good friend, and they know you well, then they would listen to you. Unfortunately though sometimes, the heart rules the head.