[alex_front2]

Originally Posted by lostalex

I will just say this. My mom died in 2005. And i didn't want to have anything to do with the funeral preparations. does that mean that i didn't love my mother? does that mean that i'm selfish and horrible? i had some family members that judged me based on that.

I would submit to people, that unless you have had such a major loss in your life, you don't know how you would respond.

Me not wanting to have anything to do with my mom's funeral had nothing at all to do with how much i loved her, and in many ways it was the exact opposite.

Does it not occur to anyone that maybe some people don't want to have anything to do with a funeral because maybe yu arn't very happy to be planning a PARTY for someone's death, that maybe you need to deal with that loss in your own way, and maybe you need to do things in your own way and in your own time.

When it comes to death i think people need to keep their opinions to themselves.

Don't take this personally but you're personal circumstance is of no interest to me and maybe you should not use it to justify dictating what people can and can't say. I WILL speculate about Scot. This is a discussion forum, Scot is on TV to be discussed and one of the few SLs with Scot is his possible bereavement. You don't like me discussing it, tough.

[Livia]

Originally Posted by alex_front2

Don't take this personally but you're personal circumstance is of no interest to me and maybe you should not use it to justify dictating what people can and can't say. I WILL speculate about Scot. This is a discussion forum, Scot is on TV to be discussed and one of the few SLs with Scot is his possible bereavement. You don't like me discussing it, tough.

Don't you take this personally... everyone's personal circumstances colours everything they think and do, and sometimes using your own personal circumstances justifies your own opinions. We've heard an awful lot about your own personal circumstances, after all.

Everyone treats death differently and everyone copes differently. There is no right or wrong way, only what's right or wrong for you.

[lostalex]

Originally Posted by alex_front2

Don't take this personally but you're personal circumstance is of no interest to me and maybe you should not use it to justify dictating what people can and can't say. I WILL speculate about Scot. This is a discussion forum, Scot is on TV to be discussed and one of the few SLs with Scot is his possible bereavement. You don't like me discussing it, tough.

i never dictated what anyone can and can't say around here. I'm not a mod and i have no power over what people can and can't say. I only gave my opinion.

[Iceman]

You telling people to keep their opinions to themselves = shutting thread down.

[Jordan.]

He went to his sisters funeral with half shaven red curly hair?

[lostalex]

Originally Posted by Iceman

You telling people to keep their opinions to themselves = shutting thread down.

I don't have the authority to tell anyone what to do. I think i explained my position in a rational way.

[lostalex]

There are certain mods on this forum that would love an excuse to infract and/or ban me, and i won't give them the satisfaction, and because they don't have an excuse to infract me, they decide to just try to intimidate me instead. I'm fully aware of what is going on here.

Sorry, but i'm on to your game.

[Marc]

Originally Posted by lostalex

There are certain mods on this forum that would love an excuse to infract and/or ban me, and i won't give them the satisfaction, and because they don't have an excuse to infract me, they decide to just try to intimidate me instead. I'm fully aware of what is going on here.

Sorry, but i'm on to your game.

Seriously? I do not intend to intimidate anybody, I wouldn't know how to start. You need to just stop being so rude and snappy at people on this forum.

You stop that and you'll stop the MODs getting on your back. We're trying to make this forum a nice place for people to come on and not get into arguments with people, yet some members chose to be rude which then intimidates other members.

[lostalex]

I'm not being rude dude, i'm giving my opinion about something that i've had personal experience with. Because i've had personal experience with this type of situation, i shared my experience, and your lack of sensitivity is more rude than anything i've said.

read every post i've made, they were all on topic and i made no attacks or rude statements to anyone.
Do i think people wanting to judge Scott based on how he mourns his loss is obscene and inappropriate? yes. i don't see how that's rude though.

[Marc]

You're pretty much shutting everybodies opinion down because you've experienced death, we've all experienced death. We all have opinions but it doesn't mean you get to quote everybody who has a different opinion to you and drum it into them that they shouldn't think that way.

[lostalex]

Originally Posted by Marc

You're pretty much shutting everybodies opinion down because you've experienced death, we've all experienced death. We all have opinions but it doesn't mean you get to quote everybody who has a different opinion to you and drum it into them that they shouldn't think that way.

well i havn't heard anyone else talk about their opinion from a personal point of view. i havn't shut anyone down. You know perfectly well that only mods can do that.

[Marc]

Closing a thread doesn't mean you shut it down. There are other ways of doing it

I'm leaving this now

[Black Dagger]

Lostalex causing a scene again? Not like him.

Scott more than likely did attend his sisters funeral and now he's back in the house, his call whatever, people grieve differently.

[lostalex]

I don't want you to leave, i just wish you'd talk about the issue of the thread, i.e, scott's loss and the issue of people wanting to judge him based on going to a funeral or not, but instead you've used an entire page to chastize me over something that you yourself even admit isn;t even a rule break. You tried to make the thread about me but i was on topic the whole time.

you can understand why i feel targeted now then.

[Vicky.]

Originally Posted by muchadoaboutnothing

Sorry if this has been brought up already and passed through the pages of time. But i was wondering if Scott did go to his sisters (I think sisters) funeral as we appear to have seen him, at some stage, on every nights HLs shows?

A funeral only takes like an hour, maybe a few hours for the wake or whatever.

It would be very easy to slip away and the HL shows not say anything about it.

Scott wanted to keep it to himself (he said this when he was informed of the death, when he came back out of the DR) and I think his/his families privacy should be respected tbh

[Yayita]

Dudes, I missed this whole thread... It went completely awry.

My 2 cents? If your a public figure, which for the time being Scott is. You expose yourself to the public and their curiosity, therefore it is completely normal for people to want to know what happened and for them to opine on the matter... Thats what happens when you are on tv and a pseudo celebrity, it is always open season.

Lostalex, Im sorry about your lost, I lost my dad in 2007 and its quite painfull and I understand the feeling. However, not everyone understands it and so you should play it close to your chest and not invest your emotions into a forum with people who wont completely understand....Just my opinion love.

[lostalex]

Originally Posted by Yayita

Dudes, I missed this whole thread... It went completely awry.

My 2 cents? If your a public figure, which for the time being Scott is. You expose yourself to the public and their curiosity, therefore it is completely normal for people to want to know what happened and for them to opine on the matter... Thats what happens when you are on tv and a pseudo celebrity, it is always open season.

Lostalex, Im sorry about your lost, I lost my dad in 2007 and its quite painfull and I understand the feeling. However, not everyone understands it and so you should play it close to your chest and not invest your emotions into a forum with people who wont completely understand....Just my opinion love.

thanks Yay, i agree, obviously some people don't wanna hear about how it really is, so i shouldn't share my own personal experiences, because i' just get torn down for it.

I love this forum, and i feel like it's a community, sometimes i forget that some people will use that kind of thing against me. yur right, i shouldn't disclose such personal things in the future.

[Yayita]

Originally Posted by lostalex

thanks Yay, i agree, obviously some people don't wanna hear about how it really is, so i shouldn't share my own personal experiences, because i' just get torn down for it.

I love this forum, and i feel like it's a community, sometimes i forget that some people will use that kind of thing against me. yur right, i shouldn't disclose such personal things in the future.

you can bitch at me in private if you need to

[sarakss]

Originally Posted by lostalex

Well if you can't respect someone's right to privacy over something as personal as that, then what do you have respect for? Certainly you've got to draw the line somewhere, don't you agree?

You need to chill out because OP asked a very valid question and his question was not disrespectful. He did not ask WHY Scott remained in the house after his sister died, he asked if he attended her funeral - a question ALMOST everyone would ask.


OP, I did have the same questions as you because the only time I'd heard Scott mention his sister was when he talked about their role-playing games with Caroline and the fight with Becky.

I even started doubting if his sister had passed away because he's handling himself like nothing happened and there's only one article that claimed it was his sister.

[lostalex]

Originally Posted by sarakss

You need to chill out because OP asked a very valid question and his question was not disrespectful. He did not ask WHY Scott remained in the house after his sister died, he asked if he attended her funeral - a question ALMOST everyone would ask.


OP, I did have the same questions as you because the only time I'd heard Scott mention his sister was when he talked about their role-playing games with Caroline and the fight with Becky.

I even started doubting if his sister had passed away because he's handling himself like nothing happened and there's only one article that claimed it was his sister.

i need to chill out? when did i say anything that wasn't "chill"?

[sarakss]

Originally Posted by lostalex

i havn't said anything rude. If i did i'm sure you would have given me an infraction by now.

Your responses since the start of this thread have been rude and dismissive.

[lostalex]

Originally Posted by sarakss

Your responses since the start of this thread have been rude and dismissive.

the OP was rude and dismissive by your standards.

[sarakss]

Originally Posted by lostalex

i need to chill out? when did i say anything that wasn't "chill"?

Let me take a step back because I don't want to seem as if I'm jumping on you. The OP, IMO, asked a valid question many people are wondering about because no one saw anything about him leaving the house.

I can't speak for everyone, but I find it really odd that 1. he's still in the house and 2. he's handling himself so 'well'. People grieve in different ways and for some people who may have not experienced that loss or reacted differently when they experienced a loss, his reaction is baffling.

Enough about that and back to your statement. When the OP asked the question, right from the start your response was rude and dismissive. You could have worded it differently, but reading it seemed like a hostile response. You might have as well said 'shut your fcuking mouth!'

[sarakss]

Originally Posted by lostalex

the OP was rude and dismissive by your standards.

How can the OP be dismissive by asking a question? Asking a question is inviting a response, not trying to silence someone.

[lostalex]

Originally Posted by sarakss

Let me take a step back because I don't want to seem as if I'm jumping on you. The OP, IMO, asked a valid question many people are wondering about because no one saw anything about him leaving the house.

I can't speak for everyone, but I find it really odd that 1. he's still in the house and 2. he's handling himself so 'well'. People grieve in different ways and for some people who may have not experienced that loss or reacted differently when they experienced a loss, his reaction is baffling.

we havn't seen much of Scott in the past few weeks atleast not since Aaron left, and i totally agree with what you've said about epople greiving in different ways. I'm not seeing how you can accusse me of saying anything offensive or aggressive, it sounds like we are agreeing!!

my innitial response was not dismissive or hostile. I said it was none of OUR business. How is that dismissive or offensive? It's not any of our business. how can i say that in any other way?