[Livia]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

You can't have a career if you have kids and are female? wow.

There are some jobs that don't sit with being a mother. I could get a call today that will mean I'll be at the airport in a couple of hours, with no set return date. There are mothers who do my job, I'm not suggesting there are none, but nannies raise their children. If and when I have a child I wouldn't want that.

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Livia

There are some jobs that don't sit with being a mother. I could get a call today that will mean I'll be at the airport in a couple of hours, with no set return date. There are mothers who do my job, I'm not suggesting there are none, but nannies raise their children. If and when I have a child I wouldn't want that.

Sure but ideally there would be two parents in a home

[Livia]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

Sure but ideally there would be two parents in a home

If the husband stays home, then fine... but it doesn't always work out like that. If I have kids I would want to give them my 100% attention and I couldn't if I was doing my current job.

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Livia

If the husband stays home, then fine... but it doesn't always work out like that. If I have kids I would want to give them my 100% attention and I couldn't if I was doing my current job.

That's you though, doesn't mean that all women would want to give up their job and stay home

[Livia]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

That's you though, doesn't mean that all women would want to give up their job and stay home

I can't imagine a woman with either no husband or a working husband being able to give enough to the job and still be able to raise her kids. It's just the way it is. Do another job... do another job in the same area of work... go back to it when the kids are older. I'm not suggesting women should stay at home, only that there are some jobs that aren't suitable when you have a young family unless you have a husband willing to support you 100%. And in my experience, that isn't always the case.

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Livia

I can't imagine a woman with either no husband or a working husband being able to give enough to the job and still be able to raise her kids. It's just the way it is. Do another job... do another job in the same area of work... go back to it when the kids are older. I'm not suggesting women should stay at home, only that there are some jobs that aren't suitable when you have a young family unless you have a husband willing to support you 100%. And in my experience, that isn't always the case.

Yet no one ever tells men they "can't have it all" or have a good career if they have kids

[Livia]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

Yet no one ever tells men they "can't have it all" or have a good career if they have kids

No, that's true. That'll change with generations, I think. Or until men give birth! Right now though, like I said, the only women I know who work with me and have kids have live-in nannies, and I wouldn't want that.