[lostalex]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

Sex is more than just that to me, it's an intimacy that I only share with my husband, I would hate to think of him being that way with someone else. But there's no solid rule on what sex is or isn't, to me it's obviously a totally different thing to what your idea of it is, doesn't mean either of us are right or wrong but certainly because our ideas on it are so different, it's definitely something that needs to be discussed before any promises are made between couples

that's very fair. you get to decide what is right for you, and you have a right to expect your partner to be honest with you too. I'm not saying there is anything wrong with monogamy. i'm glad you and your husband are on the same page

unfortunately, some men, and some women, are not so happy in their relationships. and feel like they can't be honest.

i think everyone should just feel conformable being honest, but we do live in a society that makes people feel like they have to lie.

you will admit that our society does pressure people into feeling like they HAVE to be monogamous, right?