[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by lostalex

but is marriage really about sex? i don't think so. i think loving someone, and being romantically attracted to someone is very different from just sex.

It's not all about sex but sex is certainly a part of it

[lostalex]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

It's not all about sex but sex is certainly a part of it

what is sex really? it' about that excitement you feel about getting to touch another person al over their body... but after a few times, you've seen it all, some people need the excitement of seeing something new!

that's why men love porn so much, and why porn stars only last a few years, we always want to see something new.

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by lostalex

what is sex really? it' about that excitement you feel about getting to touch another person al over their body... but after a few times, you've seen it all, some people need the excitement of seeing something new!

that's why men love porn so much, and why porn stars only last a few years, we always want to see something new.

Sex is more than just that to me, it's an intimacy that I only share with my husband, I would hate to think of him being that way with someone else. But there's no solid rule on what sex is or isn't, to me it's obviously a totally different thing to what your idea of it is, doesn't mean either of us are right or wrong but certainly because our ideas on it are so different, it's definitely something that needs to be discussed before any promises are made between couples

[lostalex]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

Sex is more than just that to me, it's an intimacy that I only share with my husband, I would hate to think of him being that way with someone else. But there's no solid rule on what sex is or isn't, to me it's obviously a totally different thing to what your idea of it is, doesn't mean either of us are right or wrong but certainly because our ideas on it are so different, it's definitely something that needs to be discussed before any promises are made between couples

that's very fair. you get to decide what is right for you, and you have a right to expect your partner to be honest with you too. I'm not saying there is anything wrong with monogamy. i'm glad you and your husband are on the same page

unfortunately, some men, and some women, are not so happy in their relationships. and feel like they can't be honest.

i think everyone should just feel conformable being honest, but we do live in a society that makes people feel like they have to lie.

you will admit that our society does pressure people into feeling like they HAVE to be monogamous, right?

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by lostalex

that's very fair. you get to decide what is right for you, and you have a right to expect your partner to be honest with you too. I'm not saying there is anything wrong with monogamy. i'm glad you and your husband are on the same page

unfortunately, some men, and some women, are not so happy in their relationships. and feel like they can't be honest.

i think everyone should just feel conformable being honest, but we do live in a society that makes people feel like they have to lie.

you will admit that our society does pressure people into feeling like they HAVE to be monogamous, right?

Yeah I agree, as you rightly point out, it's actually honesty between couples that's the bigger issue here. Yes society does push towards monogamy and maybe open relationships should not be frowned upon so much. As I've said before, i don't have any issues with people wanting open relationships as long as they're both on the same page and again that comes back to honesty. Unfortunately though i think alot of these people who cheat don't really want open relationships, they want to be able to sleep around themselves but maybe wouldn't be as open to their partner doing it and maybe that's why they sneak around instead of discussing it