[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Toy Soldier

So its the "when Harry met Sally" question then (I think it's Harry that insists men and women can't be just friends). I'm not convinced though - I don't think "fancying" someone is a huge deal and it's a million miles from having something actually happen beyond just that... I also tend to think that anyone who claims that during a long term relationship they have NEVER even vaguely fancied anyone else is probably not being entirely honest .

I've been thinking a lot lately, about life, about how really it's all about connections, about how I don't have as many as I'd probably like at this point and about some really good connections that I've had in the past and let go of carelessly. I think a lot of the world is pretty lonely, I guess, and that ironically part of the cause of that is insecurity and jealousy. I've even seen plenty of people get insecure about their partners having deep connections with old friends of the same sex. Jealous of time spent with them, etc. Which I understand when people have generally busy lives but I dunno. Just wish I properly "knew" more people beyond superficial niceties.

Oh God, I'm the opposite, I have 4 close girlfriends and tbh it's hard enough trying to keep the connection with them and my family both my own husband and kids and my brothers and mom, Gavs family without trying to add other people into the mix too!

as for your point about fancying people, of course you're going to fancy other people or atleast notice that someone is attractive, I'm not saying that at all but spending time working on "connections" with someone you also find attractive is dangerous ground really.......imo anyhow