[Jamie89]

Originally Posted by Cal.

I was just thinking, is there certain family members that you would grieve for more than others?

In my head I'd like to think that I'd feel this way: (from most grief to least grief)

My Child>Parents>Siblings>Spouse>Grandparents>Aunties/Uncles>Pets>Cousins>Friends

Do you think there is a hierarchy of grief or do you think that everybody grieves different and (if you don't mind sharing) what is your experience with whom you have grieved more over than others?

I think everyone grieves differently, and at different stages in life and depending on the circumstances of someone's passing too. For example when I was really young my granddad died and I was really upset obviously, but a couple of years ago a work colleague died and I'd say I was more upset when that happened (even though I was closer to my granddad). And thinking about it, it's probably to do with the fact I spent every day with her, everyone I was surrounded by at work was distraught, she was young (mid 30's), she had young kids, it was just more of a tragedy I suppose. And I was only 7 when my granddad died and I was shielded from a lot of things, like the grief of other family members, plus he had a terminal illness so it was something I'd been prepared for. So yeah I think there's loads of factors in grief and not necessarily something that can be categorised, because if my work colleague and my granddad were both alive and I was to say who I cared more for, it would be my granddad even though I grieved less for him.