[caprimint]

Originally Posted by Cherie

LT?


Not necessarily, it can be out of respect for those that are gone as well

But why do you have to go to a grave to show respect?

They are never going to know whether you visit it or not. It's all in the mind if you feel a 'connection' or whatever.

[T*]

Originally Posted by caprimint

But why do you have to go to a grave to show respect?

They are never going to know whether you visit it or not. It's all in the mind if you feel a 'connection' or whatever.

Let's not do this whole thing

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by caprimint

But why do you have to go to a grave to show respect?

They are never going to know whether you visit it or not. It's all in the mind if you feel a 'connection' or whatever.

I agree, I find talking about the person, looking through old letters/photos etc is a much better way to remember the person and keep their memory alive

[caprimint]

Originally Posted by LeatherTrumpet

Incorrect, it is life affirming to recognise what has come before you, its nothing to do with religion, its about being alive

Who has hacked your account?

Originally Posted by Niamh.

I agree, I find talking about the person, looking through old letters/photos etc is a much better way to remember the person and keep their memory alive

Totally agreed with this.

[kirklancaster]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

I agree, I find talking about the person, looking through old letters/photos etc is a much better way to remember the person and keep their memory alive

Apart from our children carrying our genes throughout their lives and passing them on to their children, it is exactly THAT what you say above which keeps us immortal Niamh, whether we are religious or not. While ever SOMEONE is TALKING about us, THINKING about us, and REMEMBERING us with love and respect after were gone, we LIVE.

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by kirklancaster

Apart from our children carrying our genes throughout their lives and passing them on to their children, it is exactly THAT what you say above which keeps us immortal Niamh, whether we are religious or not. While ever SOMEONE is TALKING about us, THINKING about us, and REMEMBERING us with love and respect after were gone, we LIVE.

Exactly. I want to be cremated anyway, I don't want a grave stone or anything like that

[Cherie]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

Exactly. I want to be cremated anyway, I don't want a grave stone or anything like that

I don't want to be buried either, it's one of my biggest fears.

[caprimint]

Originally Posted by Cherie

Personally I find it sad to see unkempt graves, it feels like no one cares

Tbh I find it sad that people see it in that way because a grave means nothing about how much you care about that person. It's supposed to be a personal thing rather than trying to prove it to others.

Originally Posted by Niamh.

Exactly. I want to be cremated anyway, I don't want a grave stone or anything like that

Same.

[Cherie]

Originally Posted by caprimint

Tbh I find it sad that people see it in that way because a grave means nothing about how much you care about that person. It's supposed to be a personal thing rather than trying to prove it to others.

Fine I guess, not sure why we are debating this, as it is very personal, it would have been nice if people could state what they do without 40 questions about it, but that's TIBB for you.

[T*]

Originally Posted by Cherie

Fine I guess, not sure why we are debating this, as it is very personal, it would have been nice if people could state what they do without 40 questions about it, but that's TIBB for you.

It really is silly and it's annoyed me quite a lot

[Ammi]

..I guess how my thoughts are is that at some point that grave will become unkempt in time but at no point will they not have had great meaning in your life and the lives of other generations as well in many cases...

[Ammi]

..I guess it's knowing the person as well..?...my dad would very much have been, don't be spending your time visiting my ashes young lady just be off to the pub with you and have a drink on me../or some such thing...it's something he wouldn't have felt had any meaning...

[Marsh.]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

Exactly. I want to be cremated anyway, I don't want a grave stone or anything like that

I already have a Niamh shrine in my house anyway.

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Marsh.

I already have a Niamh shrine in my house anyway.

[Cherie]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

I agree, I find talking about the person, looking through old letters/photos etc is a much better way to remember the person and keep their memory alive

You can do both?

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Cherie

You can do both?

If you like, I won't stop you I was just talking about myself

[Cherie]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

If you like, I won't stop you I was just talking about myself

Oh were you, okay

[Cherie]

Originally Posted by caprimint

But why do you have to go to a grave to show respect?

They are never going to know whether you visit it or not. It's all in the mind if you feel a 'connection' or whatever.

Personally I find it sad to see unkempt graves, it feels like no one cares

[Benjamin]

Originally Posted by Cherie

Personally I find it sad to see unkempt graves, it feels like no one cares

This. It' feels like 'oh they're buried now, let's move on'. Otherwise you may as well just be cremated and scattered.