[DemolitionRed]

Originally Posted by AnnieK

I don't think anyone can answer that question honestly, particularly how they would feel. I have a 7 year old son who I love unconditionally. If he came home telling me he felt he wanted to transition, I would absolutely do everything in my power to get the support and information he needed to begin the journey and support him 100%' HOWEVER, I do not know how I would actually feel about it, I could give you lip service and tell you I would feel nothing or happy etc....but I honestly don't know. I would hope there is a support network for any parent facing this with their children too as it affects the lives of anyone close to a transitioning person. They have to change their whole perceptions too.

Thanks, I probably phrased that question incorrectly. I should of probably asked how you think you'd react.

I have a close friend who went through this with her then 16 year old daughter. As a child she was very girly but she became quite boyish around puberty and then went on to suffer massive depressive bouts and even attempted suicide. When he (and I call him 'he' because that's what I believe he is) told his parents, they, just like you say you would, fully supported him but they both had to go for therapy because, and this is what their therapist told them, they had to go through the grieving process of saying goodbye to their only daughter.

I think I would feel anxious. Anxious because of what they had ahead of them. The stigma, the rejection, not only from the public but from their extended family and friends. I would also morn the lost hope of future grandchildren. You're right, there is a grieving process for parents, even those who fully support the transition.

[Vicky.]

Originally Posted by DemolitionRed

Thanks, I probably phrased that question incorrectly. I should of probably asked how you think you'd react.

I have a close friend who went through this with her then 16 year old daughter. As a child she was very girly but she became quite boyish around puberty and then went on to suffer massive depressive bouts and even attempted suicide. When he (and I call him 'he' because that's what I believe he is) told his parents, they, just like you say you would, fully supported him but they both had to go for therapy because, and this is what their therapist told them, they had to go through the grieving process of saying goodbye to their only daughter.

I think I would feel anxious. Anxious because of what they had ahead of them. The stigma, the rejection, not only from the public but from their extended family and friends. I would also morn the lost hope of future grandchildren. Your right, there is a grieving process for parents, even those who fully support the transition.

what do you mean 'became quite boyish?' Started being more stereotypically masculine?

I would say there is a fairly large chance that this person is just a butch lesbian. Possibly with internalized homophobia. better to be a strsight man than a gay women.

Maybe they actually are trans. But so often it all comes down to stereotypes, its quite scary.

Obviously this is quite personal, but did this person actually have sex dysphoria? And how long ago was this? Without adding identifying info is it possible to tell us how this ended up Sorry for all of the questions.

The topic just fascinates me and horrifies me in equal measure. Partly because I am near certain if I had been born 20 years later than I was, I would be a 'transkid' today as I was totally gender non-conforming (still am) and if I was told there was a way to stop puberty, I would have taken it like a shot tbh. I would now be sterile. And an imitation of a man, which I know I would not be happy with at all. And theres no way for anyone to go back on the decision, if puberty is blocked then cross sex hormones start after this. I find it amazing that we let kids as young as 10 (or younger in some cases) make this huge decision that will affect them for the rest of their lives. And that any parent who protests is branded transphobic

[DemolitionRed]

Originally Posted by Vicky.

what do you mean 'became quite boyish?' Started being more stereotypically masculine?

I would say there is a fairly large chance that this person is just a butch lesbian. Possibly with internalized homophobia. better to be a strsight man than a gay women.

Maybe they actually are trans. But so often it all comes down to stereotypes, its quite scary.

Obviously this is quite personal, but did this person actually have sex dysphoria? And how long ago was this? Without adding identifying info is it possible to tell us how this ended up Sorry for all of the questions.

The topic just fascinates me and horrifies me in equal measure. Partly because I am near certain if I had been born 20 years later than I was, I would be a 'transkid' today as I was totally gender non-conforming (still am) and if I was told there was a way to stop puberty, I would have taken it like a shot tbh. I would now be sterile. And an imitation of a man, which I know I would not be happy with at all. And theres no way for anyone to go back on the decision, if puberty is blocked then cross sex hormones start after this. I find it amazing that we let kids as young as 10 (or younger in some cases) make this huge decision that will affect them for the rest of their lives. And that any parent who protests is branded transphobic

He was never a lesbian. He has married a pansexual man. Before the transition he was diagnosed as bi-polar. Since his transition that diagnosis has been removed.

[Vicky.]

Originally Posted by DemolitionRed

He was never a lesbian. He has married a pansexual man. Before the transition he was diagnosed as bi-polar. Since his transition that diagnosis has been removed.

Ah right. Seems transition was actually the right choice for him then. For some it is. I just really don't think 'transition' should be hailed the wonder treatment, when its really not. And the suicide stats peddled relentlessly...well major studies done ionto this actually show that post-transition, the suicide rate of trans people rises to even higher than it ever was before transition :S

Definitely an area that needs to be looked into more, and different treatments considered rather than being branded 'transphobic'. I find it extremely odd how transactivists like to bury the fact that there are a lot of detransitioners, and try to block any studies into detransitioners too. when obviously, the more is understood about this illness, the better. Like all illnesses tbh.

[DemolitionRed]

Originally Posted by Vicky.

Ah right. Seems transition was actually the right choice for him then. For some it is. I just really don't think 'transition' should be hailed the wonder treatment, when its really not. And the suicide stats peddled relentlessly...well major studies done ionto this actually show that post-transition, the suicide rate of trans people rises to even higher than it ever was before transition :S

Definitely an area that needs to be looked into more, and different treatments considered rather than being branded 'transphobic'. I find it extremely odd how transactivists like to bury the fact that there are a lot of detransitioners, and try to block any studies into detransitioners too. when obviously, the more is understood about this illness, the better. Like all illnesses tbh.

But that could be from lack of acceptance in society? I mean, come on, lots of People snigger when they see a trans female in Asda.

[Vicky.]

Originally Posted by DemolitionRed

But that could be from lack of acceptance in society? I mean, come on, lots of People snigger when they see a trans female in Asda.

Could be. But surely, before any transition the same lack of acceptance was there? So makes no sense how the suicide rate rises after transition.

But either way it is another thing that needs looked into thoroughly IMO.

We will never understand it, if all studies and such are blocked because 'transphobia'. It is not transphobic to want to understand something more, the causes, the cures, the symptoms, the lot.