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Originally Posted by DemolitionRed

Thanks, I probably phrased that question incorrectly. I should of probably asked how you think you'd react.

I have a close friend who went through this with her then 16 year old daughter. As a child she was very girly but she became quite boyish around puberty and then went on to suffer massive depressive bouts and even attempted suicide. When he (and I call him 'he' because that's what I believe he is) told his parents, they, just like you say you would, fully supported him but they both had to go for therapy because, and this is what their therapist told them, they had to go through the grieving process of saying goodbye to their only daughter.

I think I would feel anxious. Anxious because of what they had ahead of them. The stigma, the rejection, not only from the public but from their extended family and friends. I would also morn the lost hope of future grandchildren. Your right, there is a grieving process for parents, even those who fully support the transition.

what do you mean 'became quite boyish?' Started being more stereotypically masculine?

I would say there is a fairly large chance that this person is just a butch lesbian. Possibly with internalized homophobia. better to be a strsight man than a gay women.

Maybe they actually are trans. But so often it all comes down to stereotypes, its quite scary.

Obviously this is quite personal, but did this person actually have sex dysphoria? And how long ago was this? Without adding identifying info is it possible to tell us how this ended up Sorry for all of the questions.

The topic just fascinates me and horrifies me in equal measure. Partly because I am near certain if I had been born 20 years later than I was, I would be a 'transkid' today as I was totally gender non-conforming (still am) and if I was told there was a way to stop puberty, I would have taken it like a shot tbh. I would now be sterile. And an imitation of a man, which I know I would not be happy with at all. And theres no way for anyone to go back on the decision, if puberty is blocked then cross sex hormones start after this. I find it amazing that we let kids as young as 10 (or younger in some cases) make this huge decision that will affect them for the rest of their lives. And that any parent who protests is branded transphobic