[Novo]

Compared to about 10 years ago the difference is huge... you could go to town and see a few people with pushchairs but now it's nearly impossible for you not to see one, what really gets me is seeing wasters who can't provide for the kids they already have get pregnant every year like it's some sort of chore when some woman who want a baby a lot lot more and for more genuine reasons can't give birth

[Jordan.]

My mum was a teenage mother and shes worked full time since she left school, bought her own house and was with my dad for 13 years and i'd say me and my sister have had just as good if not better upbringing than a lot of my close friends with older parents. It's just a shame now a lot of teen parents tend to be your typical orange slag. But there are a few good ones out there.

[Chuck]

Everytime a relative calls me to tell "great news", it's always about some cousin who just got pregnant. I can't say I'm glad/happy with the news because I know they don't have the financial structure to give those children a decent life and aren't mature enough to even take care of themselves, let alone a child. But whenever I voice my opinion about that matter, my family just says that I'm miserable and secretly jealous because I'm gay and will never have any child.

[Niall]

In some cases its really and accident so I guess it is what it is in that respect. As other people have stated in this thread before me, it is in no way ideal for the mother or the child as it just puts strain on them both but if the baby was unplanned and the mother decided to keep it then fair play y'know.

Its the ones that plan it all when they're still in their teens, that I don't understand or approve of. Like how they plan to have a baby so early terrifies me in the fact that I don't think they've actually thought through how much care, attention and time a child requires. It astounds me how some people in my age bracket can be that ignorant. I know that I wouldn't even dream of having kids until I was at least in my late 20s.

[arista]

Accidents - Very Few.

[fruit_cake]

I don't think single mothers should get extra benefits for each child they have, but somebody is going to work for our pensions in old age.

I do prefer single mothers to those who abort. I have very very strong feelings against abortion.

[arista]

Originally Posted by fruit_cake

I don't think single mothers should get extra benefits for each child they have, but somebody is going to work for our pensions in old age.

I do prefer single mothers to those who abort. I have very very strong feelings against abortion.

Keep Them Hidden.


As Woman have Rights
and its Legal to Abort.

[fruit_cake]

Originally Posted by arista

Keep Them Hidden.


As Woman have Rights
and its Legal to Abort.

ok I will keep them hidden

[arista]

Originally Posted by fruit_cake

ok I will keep them hidden

No You are free to State it
Infact there is a Gang on here that will back you.



Sign Of The Times

[fruit_cake]

Originally Posted by arista

No You are free to State it
Infact there is a Gang on here that will back you.



Sign Of The Times

what do you think about abortion Arista, are you in favour?

[Sam:)]

My friend is 14 and is going to be a dad! He had sex with some girl without a condom because he thought a girl couldn't pregnant on your first time.
People just need to cop on, most of these teenagers think they are really 30 and capable of having real relationships,sex lives. In 90% of the cases it see's the teens life ruined, they give up education and forfeit any chance of getting a decent job, and then the teens parents end up paying for it financially and they will probably be stuck looking after the child.

[MTVN]

Are you against it for religious reasons Fruit Cake, or just moral ones?

[fruit_cake]

Originally Posted by MTVN

Are you against it for religious reasons Fruit Cake, or just moral ones?

I'm against it for moral reasons, what about you???

[MTVN]

Originally Posted by fruit_cake

I'm against it for moral reasons, what about you???

Oh right fair enough, and nah I'm a big defender of Abortion, or the right to have one anyway

[fruit_cake]

Originally Posted by MTVN

Oh right fair enough, and nah I'm a big defender of Abortion, or the right to have one anyway

ok Matt, I can see a potentially huge 10000 page thread coming on so it's possibly best I don't say anything more at this point

I think when I was younger I was in favour of people's right to have an abortion but since I'm a bit older and had children that changed completely

[MTVN]

Originally Posted by fruit_cake

ok Matt, I can see a potentially huge 10000 page thread coming on so it's possibly best I don't say anything more at this point

I think when I was younger I was in favour of people's right to have an abortion but since I'm a bit older and had children that changed completely

Ha yeah that's fine by me, I'm not that interested in getting into a huge abortion argument

[Ninastar]

I'm not against abortion, but I can totally see why a person would hate it. I used to think people who had abortions were selfish for a long time, but only this year did I think about it more and how it would affect the baby if it were to live.

[Jords]

I dont think its right to say those unplanned are 'accidents' because they know very well what theyre doing and know to use precautions (this annoys me so much CONDOMS ARE FREE). Its a risk that didnt pay off.

Anyway on the actual matter, some teenage mothers are great, other are appalling... but thats very much the case for mothers of any age. With teenage mums they have a lot less experience under their belt, very emotional and not settled down with a job in hand. But if they have a good supporting family, they do well.

I dont think its right to say 18 is too young (my dad was 18), I think thats probably the minimum 'ideal' age. Any younger and they are diving in well too fast and giving up their childhood too soon.

Having young parents though (my mum was 21) is really great in many ways and as well as teenage mothers having problems in certain ways I think older mums (40's) do also.

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Jords

I dont think its right to say those unplanned are 'accidents' because they know very well what theyre doing and know to use precautions (this annoys me so much CONDOMS ARE FREE). Its a risk that didnt pay off.

Anyway on the actual matter, some teenage mothers are great, other are appalling... but thats very much the case for mothers of any age. With teenage mums they have a lot less experience under their belt, very emotional and not settled down with a job in hand. But if they have a good supporting family, they do well.

I dont think its right to say 18 is too young (my dad was 18), I think thats probably the minimum 'ideal' age. Any younger and they are diving in well too fast and giving up their childhood too soon.

Having young parents though (my mum was 21) is really great in many ways and as well as teenage mothers having problems in certain ways I think older mums (40's) do also.

I think a mother in their 40's would be far more able and prepared to cope with a child than a teenage mother.

[Jords]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

I think a mother in their 40's would be far more able and prepared to cope with a child than a teenage mother.

Able yes but I think there is likely to have less connection between child and parents and also Ive read its less safe for a baby if they are born from an older mother.

Im definitely not saying its wrong or anything, but it has its problems like teenage mums do just in a different way.

[Tom]

Originally Posted by Jords

I dont think its right to say those unplanned are 'accidents' because they know very well what theyre doing and know to use precautions (this annoys me so much CONDOMS ARE FREE). Its a risk that didnt pay off.

Free ones are rubbish, they split really easily. They're also only 98% effective so its not always that simple

[Ninastar]

yeah I don't want this to turn into another abortion thread either

I just like hearing different opinions on what I call a problem

[Marc]

Caitlin judging.

[Ninastar]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

I think a mother in their 40's would be far more able and prepared to cope with a child than a teenage mother.

yeah exactly. I used to think it was way better to have a baby at this age, but that was so niave of me. At 40 you've experienced so much more, you understand people, you've most likely worked for half your life. You likely live in your own home. Most importantly you are likely to have a job/career and money to spend on your children.

Originally Posted by Marc

Caitlin judging.

get out

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Jords

Able yes but I think there is likely to have less connection between child and parents and also Ive read its less safe for a baby if they are born from an older mother.

Im definitely not saying its wrong or anything, but it has its problems like teenage mums do just in a different way.

The only concern I'd have about a 40 year old having a baby is there's a higher risk something would be wrong with the baby, other than that none. Definitely not that they'll have less of a connection, a mother is a mother, not a buddy.

Originally Posted by Ninastar

yeah exactly. I used to think it was way better to have a baby at this age, but that was so niave of me. At 40 you've experienced so much more, you understand people, you've most likely worked for half your life. You likely live in your own home. Most importantly you are likely to have a job/career and money to spend on your children.

get out

Yeah, I agree.