[Jake.]

Originally Posted by Daniel_

"Hazel did the same"

No she didn't, Daley told her he was single, from what I remember.

Yes, as in doing the same as what she supposedly did. I'm completely in agreeance regarding Hazel, Daley switched between being in a relationship/being single pretty much every day and got off far too lightly given that he was the one in a relationship.

[Daniel.]

Gina's obsession with Hazel was annoying af she's still better than hazel tho

[Crimson Dynamo]

Hazel was lovely

Disgusting Daley and Gina were filth

[goldensunlight]

Originally Posted by jet

If you know the person is married you can't absolve yourself from taking some of the blame. It's your choice to go there.

It's your choice, but if you're single then so what? You're not making the married person 'get with' you, it's their choice alone and so they should have to face the consequences, not the person who is free to do as they wish.

Originally Posted by LeatherTrumpet

Hazel was lovely

Disgusting Daley and Gina were filth

[Lostie!]

Originally Posted by goldensunlight

It's your choice, but if you're single then so what? You're not making the married person 'get with' you, it's their choice alone and so they should have to face the consequences, not the person who is free to do as they wish.

And that's my entire point of people just trying to dodge facing the concequences of their actions.

If you got with a married person and their family was completely torn apart, you would absolutely be as much to blame for that as the married person. Tell yourself otherwise as much as you want, but unless the married person has been having an affair with an imaginary person, there are always two people to blame for what has happened.

[goldensunlight]

Originally Posted by Lostie!

And that's my entire point of people just trying to dodge facing the concequences of their actions.

If you got with a married person and their family was completely torn apart, you would absolutely be as much to blame for that as the married person. Tell yourself otherwise as much as you want, but unless the married person has been having an affair with an imaginary person, there are always two people to blame for what has happened.

I disagree. You don't know these people or have any connection to them, so I fail to see how you are to blame for their actions of cheating on someone.

I guess we just have very different opinions on this.

[Lostie!]

Originally Posted by goldensunlight

I disagree. You don't know these people or have any connection to them, so I fail to see how you are to blame for their actions of cheating on someone.

I guess we just have very different opinions on this.

I'm unsure why it's suddenly okay to contribute to treating someone like crap just because you don't know them (but even that isn't true in all cases of cheating, plenty of times the bit on the side does know them).

And yes, we clearly do. If someone doesn't understand the principle of their actions playing a role, there's nothing more I can (or wish to) say to them about it.

[Daniel.]

I guess this makes me awful in some eyes but i really wouldn't see it as my problem and get on with it

[Natalie.]

No,I wouldn't want to hurt their partner.

[Daniel.]

Gina was an icon

[Headie]

Depends how much their appearance fee is

[Niamh.]

There's no law against cheating on your partner either Jack, that's as much a moral issue as being single and sleeping with a married person. Both are scummy things to do, I agree that one is worse than the other, but both are scumbags imo

[Jack_]

Also, the flip side of the argument that allowing the single person to be absolved of any blame is 'just giving them a useful excuse to justify their actions' is that by allowing the single person to take some of the blame, you are also giving the cheater free reign to say 'well they went along with it! They got with me! They were attractive how could I help myself they didn't try to stop me ' which is absolute ****ing nonsense. It's like dropping 50% of the blame on the cheater and handing it over to the single person, giving them somewhat a justification for the fact that they disrespected their own partner.

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Jack_

Also, the flip side of the argument that allowing the single person to be absolved of any blame is 'just giving them a useful excuse to justify their actions' is that by allowing the single person to take some of the blame, you are also giving the cheater free reign to say 'well they went along with it! They got with me! They were attractive how could I help myself they didn't try to stop me ' which is absolute ****ing nonsense. It's like dropping 50% of the blame on the cheater and handing it over to the single person, giving them somewhat a justification for the fact that they disrespected their own partner.

Well no because none of this stuff is actually illegal so us agreeing or disagreeing on the subject isn't going to change how individual couples deal with a cheating situation. If a person wants to blame the 3rd party and not their partner they're probably doing it because they don't want to break up and want to take their anger out on someone who isn't the person sharing their bed

Also, just because you think the 3rd person is a scummy person doesn't mean you take any blame off the cheater

[Daniel.]

Because it has nothing to do with you? Like, i don't know the person so im not eally ruining it for them, their partner is...

[Lostie!]

Originally Posted by Daniel_

Because it has nothing to do with you? Like, i don't know the person so im not eally ruining it for them, their partner is...

But you are though, both people involved are. They can't have an affair with themselves.

[Josy]

No! I actually cannot stand cheaters.

[Dollface]

This is an interesting discussion tbh. I haven't voted on the poll yet because I honestly don't know whether i'd do something like that or not. Part of me thinks it's horrible (hello, girl code) but another part of me thinks, what if I really, really, really liked this person? I definitely 100% wouldn't sleep with them, but i'm not sure about a wee kiss.

[Dominic]

No.

[Wizard.]

The people who say "yes" have no moral compass, no boundaries and are probably insecure. Theirs plenty of good looking single people out there, go find them!

[Crimson Dynamo]

i suspect its just youth and inexperience

[Wizard.]

Originally Posted by LeatherTrumpet

i suspect its just youth and inexperience

I'm young so...

[Liam-]

Knowingly getting with someone whos married or in a relationship, on television or not is classless and one of the trashiest acts possible imo.

[EspeonBB]

I couldn't get with someone if they were committed to someone else no