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Also, the flip side of the argument that allowing the single person to be absolved of any blame is 'just giving them a useful excuse to justify their actions' is that by allowing the single person to take some of the blame, you are also giving the cheater free reign to say 'well they went along with it! They got with me! They were attractive how could I help myself they didn't try to stop me ' which is absolute ****ing nonsense. It's like dropping 50% of the blame on the cheater and handing it over to the single person, giving them somewhat a justification for the fact that they disrespected their own partner.