[Withano]

Originally Posted by Oliver_W

Depends on the context - you might want to be friends with someone and nothing more, and label this as a "non-romantic attraction"
You might not fancy someone's looks, but want to date them for their personality. You'd not be sexually attracted to them, but you're attracted to them due to their mind.
Both of the above can apply to any sexuality.

But if person A has and does experience sexual attraction to gender.. and person B hasnt and doesnt experience sexual attraction to gender.. they have two very different sexualities. That is the core piece you are missing... yes people like personality in a partner. Thats not evidence pansexuality doesnt exist lol.

[Oliver_W]

Originally Posted by Withano

But if person A has and does experience sexual attraction to gender.. and person B hasnt and doesnt experience sexual attraction to gender.. they have two very different sexualities. That is the core piece you are missing... yes people like personality in a partner. Thats not evidence pansexuality doesnt exist lol.

How do bi people have an "attraction to gender" when they're willing to date both genders?

[Withano]

Originally Posted by Oliver_W

How do bi people have an "attraction to gender" when they're willing to date both genders?

Their attraction to gender is why they are willing to date both genders. A straight mans attraction to females is why he would be willing to date one gender.
A pan (and an asexual) isnt attracted to gender.. they may both be willing to date both genders, but that doesnt make them bi.

[Oliver_W]

Originally Posted by Withano

Their attraction to gender is why they are willing to date both genders. A straight mans attraction to females is why he would be willing to date one gender.
A pan (and an asexual) isnt attracted to gender.. they may both be willing to date both genders, but that doesnt make them bi.

Like TS said, I don't really get what you mean by "attraction to gender". I'm generally willing to date either gender, and the two criteria are a)what do they look like b)what's their personality like. What their gender is doesn't come into it. If they have big (biological feature) then score! But it's not a deal breaker.

[Withano]

Originally Posted by Oliver_W

Like TS said, I don't really get what you mean by "attraction to gender". I'm generally willing to date either gender, and the two criteria are a)what do they look like b)what's their personality like. What their gender is doesn't come into it. If they have big (biological feature) then score! But it's not a deal breaker.

Ever since you claimed an asexual who would date men and women is a bisexual, ive understood you tbh. Youre obviously wrong, but i cant be the one to talk you down from there.

[Oliver_W]

Originally Posted by Withano

Ever since you claimed an asexual who would date men and women is a bisexual, ive understood you tbh. Youre obviously wrong, but i cant be the one to talk you down from there.

Okay so I'm wrong on the asexuals thing. But asexuals and "pansexuals" are different. So...
Like TS said, I don't really get what you mean by "attraction to gender". I'm generally willing to date either gender, and the two criteria are a)what do they look like b)what's their personality like. What their gender is doesn't come into it. If they have big (biological feature) then score! But it's not a deal breaker.

[Withano]

Originally Posted by Oliver_W

Okay so I'm wrong on the asexuals thing. But asexuals and "pansexuals" are different. So...
Like TS said, I don't really get what you mean by "attraction to gender". I'm generally willing to date either gender, and the two criteria are a)what do they look like b)what's their personality like. What their gender is doesn't come into it. If they have big (biological feature) then score! But it's not a deal breaker.

Well do you understand why you were wrong about asexuals?

They are not sexually attracted to either gender
Pansexuals are not sexually attracted to either gender
Bisexuals are sexually attracted to both genders

Which of those three sentences are confusing to you (genuine question) im aware this may come off bitchy, not my intention promise! Just stuck on where we’re at now.