[Vicky.]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

My daughter is from a previous relationship and her dad never went for custody, tbh he only started wanting to have her more after he met someone else and had more kids so was already "tied" if you know what I mean.

Yeah, we have a similar issue. My stepson..his father never went for custody and ****ed off right after he was born. So Gavin took the father role as he got with his ex around that time and the kid grew up thinking Gavin was his dad, which in all honesty he is, the other guy was just a sperm donor given his behaviour. But all of a sudden now the sperm donor is in a relationship with someone else and has had a child (and actually stuck around! Maybe he learnt something) and he is being a bit of a tit. Keeps sending random solicitors letters saying he will go to court, which is fine, do what he wants. But then, after one letter everything stops for a bit, then in a few months, another random one. Never followed up by any action. I suspect its his new partner saying he should be in the childs life. The kid is ****ing 14 now...

[ChristmasNeeve]

Originally Posted by Vicky.

Yeah, we have a similar issue. My stepson..his father never went for custody and ****ed off right after he was born. So Gavin took the father role as he got with his ex around that time and the kid grew up thinking Gavin was his dad, which in all honesty he is, the other guy was just a sperm donor given his behaviour. But all of a sudden now the sperm donor is in a relationship with someone else and has had a child (and actually stuck around! Maybe he learnt something) and he is being a bit of a tit. Keeps sending random solicitors letters saying he will go to court, which is fine, do what he wants. But then, after one letter everything stops for a bit, then in a few months, another random one. Never followed up by any action. I suspect its his new partner saying he should be in the childs life. The kid is ****ing 14 now...

ah that's terrible, poor kid, now my daughters dad isn't that bad, he did still see her but what I mean was that I think he was pretty happy to be living the care free single life for a while so had absolutely no interest in fighting for custody, full or joint and I think alot more men than women are like that though I don't like to generalise and I fully appreciate that it's not the case 100% of the time either