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Originally Posted by Niamh.

Sounds a bit perverted tbh

Yeah... My parents grew up when the belt / cane was still around and both have said that as you got older and started to "notice" and understand these things... It became really clear that some of the teachers genuinely got off on the whole thing. Very disturbing.

Anyway, on the general thread topic, no to physical punishment. It's unnecessary, ineffective and straight up lazy. When the punishment fits the crime it works much better, e.g. You and a friend trash the bedroom, you ain't doing anything else until it's back the way it was.

Tech bans are also pretty effective around here.

We also once made her go to a neighbour's door and apologise for her and her friend shouting "rude stuff" out of her bedroom window at her... She was mortified, it was brilliant. She bawled for half an hour solid about it before composing herself enough to actually do it. Hasn't so much as whispered out the window since .

Also I think I've mentioned before, my wife sits her down for "long talks". Looong talks. About morality and the sort of person she wants to be when she grows up. She HATES them . She gets so bored that her eyes practically gaze over. I think she'd rather be smacked. It works as a threat too; "Ahem, do we need to have a long chat about this?" - - "NO! Please no not that, I'll stop right now I promise!"