[Ammi]

..they can refer to Sian as they wish to, with whatever terminology they choose to use..(..whether it’s merited or not..)....but the irony comes when they’ve judged and criticised others for their wording and terminology as well...as with sexual talk...their ‘level’ and terminology is okay and dandy and acceptable apparently...but the others use of terminology is quite base and crude and unacceptable to them...they make the rules and they scream the rules... but they don’t practice them, is the thing for me...

[Ammi]

...Lewis can call the whole house a reptile house...but if one person called Lewis a reptile or reptile-like in his character...well then...that would surely get his goose gandered ....

[Garfie]

Originally Posted by Ammi

..they can refer to Sian as they wish to, with whatever terminology they choose to use..(..whether it’s merited or not..)....but the irony comes when they’ve judged and criticised others for their wording and terminology as well...as with sexual talk...their ‘level’ and terminology is okay and dandy and acceptable apparently...but the others use of terminology is quite base and crude and unacceptable to them...they make the rules and they scream the rules... but they don’t practice them, is the thing for me...

You are right. They have one rule for themselves but are highly bitter towards and critical of anyone who behaves as they do. It always makes me laugh the way the irony is so lost on them!

It's like they repeatedly refer to others as snakes and reptiles when they are the most poisonous and venomous pair in there. Again they totally miss the irony.

Is it called transference, when you perceive in others the behaviour you are actually displaying yourself?

[Ammi]

Originally Posted by Garfie

You are right. They have one rule for themselves but are highly bitter towards and critical of anyone who behaves as they do. It always makes me laugh the way the irony is so lost on them!

It's like they repeatedly refer to others as snakes and reptiles when they are the most poisonous and venomous pair in there. Again they totally miss the irony.

Is it called transference, when you perceive in others the behaviour you are actually displaying yourself?

..yeah I think (..Lewis in particular..)...projects onto others...as in projecting of negativity in different and varying forms...and then he identifies and judges that negativity so will often be...’I was right, I called it’, I told you’ etc...when what he’s judging and calling is coming from him as the starting point...cause and effect.....