[user104658]

Just to add, going into DEBT for a wedding is just ****ing stupid, why would you want to start your marriage with debt? You'll accumulate plenty of that over time ... .

Our originally planned wedding was coming in at about £10k but at the time we had about £6k between us, and my dad + her parents were going to kick in £2k each, so it would all have been paid for without debt. We cancelled and spent the £6k on baby stuff (over the course of a year+, tbf) that we probably did not need, so there's that, but then... I think everyone over-spends on their first born?