[smudgie]

Both my kids have been sat down and told that I want hubby to meet someone else after I go. If you really love someone then you naturally want them to carry on life and find happiness.
However I depend on him to be discreet and allow them all to mourn first.
My sister lost her husband at 39, left with 4 kids, ended up with his cousin and went through hell with the two daughters.
It was just too soon for them
Thankfully things got better as they got older and all is well now.