[user104658]

But no srsly, there is a "bad" side to hyper-masculinity. I won't say "toxic masculinity" because frankly I despise almost all of these "buzz terms" ("toxic masculinity", "mansplaining", "feminazi", "snowflake", the overuse of the word "problematic", etc.) BUT it is a thing that exists, in the sense that it actually RESTRICTS some men in what they can express e.g. men being afraid to cry because of the reactions of other men, and actually, of many women. I suppose the difference is... it's fine if a man doesn't want to show emotion. It's NOT fine if a man does want to show emotion but can't because he will be mocked by other men. That's the part that's... err... problematic.

The problem is when men say things or take action based purely on social expectation, when it's not what they truly think or believe or what they actually want to do.

Ironically; it comes from a place of low self esteem, cowardice and lack of confidence. Confident men like me and you Alf don't give a shiny sh*t what other blokes think of us, amirite?