[Vicky.]

Originally Posted by Strictly Jake

I know my dad would give me proper whollops as a kid, I had the wooden spoon at some point it snapped in half , I was threatened with a belt I don't think he used it though. I even got pinned to the wall at one time. I was so scared I would pee myself, looking back its not good parenting but I did show him respect. I think I was a very well behaved kid so I don't know what I did to deserve it... That said I get on really well with my dad now

I need to learn to discipline my kids properly I'd never whallop them but I do give a light tap on a hand especially if I have asked a lot of times I'd never use it as a first resort, and I do raise my voice and shout a bit too quickly which doesn't even work anyway so that needs work...

Everyone who smacks, or is considering it says stuff like this. However, everyone knows a 'light tap on the hand' would do nothing at all, so would be pointless. It seems hard for people to acknowledge that they are hitting a child, not 'tapping' them. I get it though..the use of language like that to convice yourself that its all fine...

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Vicky.

Everyone who smacks, or is considering it says stuff like this. However, everyone knows a 'light tap on the hand' would do nothing at all, so would be pointless. It seems hard for people to acknowledge that they are hitting a child, not 'tapping' them. I get it though..the use of language like that to convice yourself that its all fine...

Exactly, if you're not hitting to hurt then it's pointless and will not give them any sort of "lesson"