[Vicky.]

Originally Posted by Strictly Jake

I know my dad would give me proper whollops as a kid, I had the wooden spoon at some point it snapped in half , I was threatened with a belt I don't think he used it though. I even got pinned to the wall at one time. I was so scared I would pee myself, looking back its not good parenting but I did show him respect. I think I was a very well behaved kid so I don't know what I did to deserve it... That said I get on really well with my dad now

I need to learn to discipline my kids properly I'd never whallop them but I do give a light tap on a hand especially if I have asked a lot of times I'd never use it as a first resort, and I do raise my voice and shout a bit too quickly which doesn't even work anyway so that needs work...

Everyone who smacks, or is considering it says stuff like this. However, everyone knows a 'light tap on the hand' would do nothing at all, so would be pointless. It seems hard for people to acknowledge that they are hitting a child, not 'tapping' them. I get it though..the use of language like that to convice yourself that its all fine...