[Kizzy]

Originally Posted by Dezzy

It's a more common thing than people expect, sadly. It's quite sad that he doesn't consider himself to be a victim, it sounds like he might not have ever really processed what happened to him, he acknowledges it, but he sounds like he is burying it. If that's the case, I hope he can come to terms with it one day and heal from it as best as anyone could, in that situation.

I agree with this, it's almost like if he doesn't admit to himself that he's a victim he isn't one...Which is imo very dangerous, to internalise something like that is usually the best way to destroy yourself.
That said working with rape elimination projects is worthwhile and cathartic, that might be his coping strategy? If he feels he's preventing this happening to others he can deal with it.