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Originally Posted by Niamh.

Why is it "problematic" for her to try and please the LGBT community?, surely that's a good thing, even if it was with clumsy attempts. And doesn't her clumsy attempts kind of show that she is in fact a genuinely nice woman who doesn't really want to upset or hurt people and therefore maybe

Because she "didn't do it right" and thus it's seen as offensive, mercenary "virtue signalling" - which is, of course, language borrowed directly from people who would traditionally be anti LGBTQ.

I mean, I don't even disagree that her attempts have at times been woefully misjudged and ham-fisted but the idea that it's constructive to stick the boot into people who aren't trying to be offensive is just maddening. By all means, explain to them why it might be misjudged... if you do that accepting that they were trying, the vast majority of people are going to be receptive, at the very least to the conversation.