[user104658]

Each to their own. I personally wouldn't do what the woman is doing in the situation described, and nor would I be either of the guys involved, I'd be out the door as soon as I heard there was someone else involved.

But their personal relationships are their business.

[Crimson Dynamo]

id love to pass acerbic comment but here in my glass house i feel it would not be a good idea

[user104658]

Originally Posted by LeatherTrumpet

id love to pass acerbic comment but here in my glass house i feel it would not be a good idea

Not the TL going back to her ex hubby but secretly having midnight rendezvous with LT on the side

[Crimson Dynamo]

Originally Posted by Toy Soldier

Not the TL going back to her ex hubby but secretly having midnight rendezvous with LT on the side

she is having hypnosis now

i feel its not the best feedback on the 3 years we were together..

[rusticgal]

A real life scenario....a bit of debate and opinions on a situation. A bit of harmless discussion. No one is judging anyone. No, we don’t know them in person but it doesn’t mean we can’t have an opinion on them.
At school we read books and encouraged to discuss characters and behaviour on both fictional and non fictional characters to get opinion and debate and different interpretations....
As far as Harry and Meghan are concerned they put themselves in the public domain and therefore they open themselves up for debate...just like Katie Hopkins, Piers Morgan, Katie Price, to name but a few. No one seems to come on here and say we can’t pass comment on them because we don’t know them personally....but if you want to put yourself out there then there will be people that like you and some that don’t...that’s life.
All Sheriff was doing was giving us a scenario to give us something to debate..harmless debate.
We all have an opinion on people based on their actions...that’s why this forum can be good fun.

[AnnieK]

Originally Posted by rusticgal

A real life scenario....a bit of debate and opinions on a situation. A bit of harmless discussion. No one is judging anyone. No, we don’t know them in person but it doesn’t mean we can’t have an opinion on them.
At school we read books and encouraged to discuss characters and behaviour on both fictional and non fictional characters to get opinion and debate and different interpretations....
As far as Harry and Meghan are concerned they put themselves in the public domain and therefore they open themselves up for debate...just like Katie Hopkins, Piers Morgan, Katie Price, to name but a few. No one seems to come on here and say we can’t pass comment on them because we don’t know them personally....but if you want to put yourself out there then there will be people that like you and some that don’t...that’s life.
All Sheriff was doing was giving us a scenario to give us something to debate..harmless debate.
We all have an opinion on people based on their actions...that’s why this forum can be good fun.

And all that is fine. What isn't is people saying that saying its none of their business is holier than thou or not valid That is their opinion which is what we have been asked to give.

[user104658]

Originally Posted by LeatherTrumpet

she is having hypnosis now



i feel its not the best feedback on the 3 years we were together..

"what did your last ex do after you guys broke up"

"oh not much... Got a haircut... Had a makeover... Joined a dating site... Found some wizards to ask them to delete her memory... The usual break up stuff..."

[Ammi]

Originally Posted by LeatherTrumpet

she is having hypnosis now

i feel its not the best feedback on the 3 years we were together..

...it’s probably a CBT thing and more linked to her own typical behaviours and self esteem, some thing she’s doing for her own sense of self, whether in or out of a relationship...no reflection on you, though...

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by AnnieK

And all that is fine. What isn't is people saying that saying its none of their business is holier than thou or not valid That is their opinion which is what we have been asked to give.

The thread asked for our opinions, I gave mine and was called a monkey (???) But I'm holier than thou....whatever

[rusticgal]

Originally Posted by AnnieK

And all that is fine. What isn't is people saying that saying its none of their business is holier than thou or not valid That is their opinion which is what we have been asked to give.

But do you not think Kate that by saying it’s no ones business is a bit of a put down to anyone who has given an opinion on a scenario on a debate forum.
I mean it’s not like we are going to get ‘involved’ or going round their house to tell them what we think..

[rusticgal]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

The thread asked for our opinions, I gave mine and was called a monkey (???) But I'm holier than thou....whatever

I really don’t think he called you a monkey....you surely know the point he was making...

[AnnieK]

Originally Posted by rusticgal

But do you not think Kate that by saying it’s no ones business is a bit of a put down to anyone who has given an opinion on a scenario on a debate forum.
I mean it’s not like we are going to get ‘involved’ or going round their house to tell them what we think..

but if you honestly wouldn't get involved if you knew the people personally then why can't you say that without being called names? Its created discussion which is the point of the forum anyway

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by rusticgal

But do you not think Kate that by saying it’s no ones business is a bit of a put down to anyone who has given an opinion on a scenario on a debate forum.

I mean it’s not like we are going to get ‘involved’ or going round their house to tell them what we think..

I didn't say it was no ones business, I said it wasn't my business but apparently I'm not allowed my opinion on what my own thoughts are. Maybe I'll just stop replying to Sheriffs threads in future

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by rusticgal

I really don’t think he called you a monkey....you surely know the point he was making...

What point was he making?

[The Slim Reaper]

Hard to speculate on the motivations of the harlot - maybe it's attention geared around being treated terribly in the past, maybe she's a sociopath, who knows?

Those dudes though...get some self respect.


Niamh tiptoeing through the thread

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by The Slim Reaper

Hard to speculate on the motivations of the harlot - maybe it's attention geared around being treated terribly in the past, maybe she's a sociopath, who knows?



Those dudes though...get some self respect.





Niamh tiptoeing through the thread

Hey! Are you calling me a monkey as well?

[The Slim Reaper]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

Hey! Are you calling me a monkey as well?

I'm not calling you anything. I just don't think it's a coincidence that they've suddenly started doing the river dance.

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by The Slim Reaper

I'm not calling you anything. I just don't think it's a coincidence that they've suddenly started doing the river dance.

[Lewismacfarlane]

My friend was with someone but had feelings for me it was very awkward

[rusticgal]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

What point was he making?

By being 3 monkeys in one....refers to ‘see no evil’ ‘hear no evil’ and ‘speak no evil’ in response to your stance of turning a blind eye as it’s ‘none of your business’.....
...and I’m not saying you are blind in one eye either

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by rusticgal

By being 3 monkeys in one....refers to ‘see no evil’ ‘hear no evil’ and ‘speak no evil’ in response to your stance of turning a blind eye as it’s ‘none of your business’.....

...and I’m not saying you are blind in one eye either

How am I turning a blind eye? Is a crime being committed? I wasn't aware that not being interested in other people's relationships was wrong

[rusticgal]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

How am I turning a blind eye? Is a crime being committed? I wasn't aware that not being interested in other people's relationships was wrong

It’s not....
It was just a scenario that happened to be happening to people he knew..Sheriff put it up for debate. He wasn’t asking people what they would do or how they would handle it...Had he...then your response would have made more sense.
No doubt many of us would have said the same thing...it was simply an innocent discussion.

[user104658]

Originally Posted by Ammi

...it’s probably a CBT thing and more linked to her own typical behaviours and self esteem, some thing she’s doing for her own sense of self, whether in or out of a relationship...no reflection on you, though...

I think it'll be an "Eternal Sunshine" scenario Ammi.

[Ammi]

Originally Posted by Toy Soldier

I think it'll be an "Eternal Sunshine" scenario Ammi.

...I love that movie..... I might to have a re-watch now...now look what you’ve done, TS...I’ll have to spend hours searching to see if it’s on a network that I can watch...

[Ammi]

...honestly, I don’t understand why not having much to add to this scenario is being questioned so much and even felt criticised...this may be something that has been put forward for debate/discussion etc...but it’s also a scenario that involves three consenting adults who are fully aware of the ‘triangle’ it seems...there is no deception or anything involved so far as I can see...so very little in terms of discussion/debate points...these people all know the situation between them...so how does that then progress..?...well that’s entirely up to them how it progresses or doesn’t progress...and a response to express that makes complete perfect sense in the context given because it’s an entirely personal situation that only those who are involved can decide...