[Toy Soldier]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

I so want my kids to be happy but also safe and not taken advantage of

That’s my thoughts on it too, which is why I say it’s about the age of the younger partner rather than the actual “gap”. Of course people can ALWAYS be taken advantage of but I’d be fairly confident that a 30+ year old knows what they’re doing as much as they ever will… a young person in their late teens and early 20’s is just too likely to be easily manipulated by a much older person with vastly more world experience for me to be comfortable with it. I struggle to see how a 50 year old can see a 20 year old as anything but a kid, if I can’t at 36.

[Glenn.]

I think unless it’s something that’s personally affecting you it’s not really anyones place to be judging them.

[Toy Soldier]

Originally Posted by Glenn.

I think unless it’s something that’s personally affecting you it’s not really anyones place to be judging them.

That’s Hyperindividualism; we live in a society. Established societal norms affect everyone.

[ThomasC]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

I so want my kids to be happy but also safe and not taken advantage of

Yeah and I don't doubt that for one second hence my original post about it being for the right reasons.

I suppose as good as the relationship could and can be, some parents aren't going to get over that drastic gap.

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by ThomasC

Yeah and I don't doubt that for one second hence my original post about it being for the right reasons.

I suppose as good as the relationship could and can be, some parents aren't going to get over that drastic gap.

Yeah and it's not even the age gap as such, as TS said, it's the age of the younger person in the particular situation we're discussing, the same age gap between a 30 year old and a 62 year old, is completely different

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Glenn.

I think unless it’s something that’s personally affecting you it’s not really anyones place to be judging them.

If it's your 18 year old in the situation, who may still be in school etc then I would argue that it is personally affecting you

[Glenn.]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

If it's your 18 year old in the situation, who may still be in school etc then I would argue that it is personally affecting you

Isn’t that what I’ve just said you hag?

[Beso]

I wonder how many 18yr old women fancy Gino di campio.

[Beso]

The title shouldn't read 18yr old girl, they are women..

You dont say 18yr old boy...you would say 18ur old youth in certain circumstances, and boy in others I suppose, but man would also be used...or male.

I wouldn't know the female terminology for youth?

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Glenn.

Isn’t that what I’ve just said you hag?

Oh

[Toy Soldier]

Originally Posted by parmnion

The title shouldn't read 18yr old girl, they are women..

You dont say 18yr old boy...you would say 18ur old youth in certain circumstances, and boy in others I suppose, but man would also be used...or male.

I wouldn't know the female terminology for youth?

I definitely refer to 18 year old males as “boys” I’m afraid Parmy. They are just kids at that age.

[Beso]

Originally Posted by Toy Soldier

I definitely refer to 18 year old males as “boys” I’m afraid Parmy. They are just kids at that age.

I'm sure they will be delighted to be called a kid at that age!!

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Toy Soldier

I definitely refer to 18 year old males as “boys” I’m afraid Parmy. They are just kids at that age.

I was talking to Luke (17) yesterday about getting his provisional drivers license sorted because he just passed his theory test, and I said come on you're nearly an adult now you should be doing this stuff yourself, he said "I'm still a child" I think he'd be happy to be a child for a while yet (pure laziness of having to organise stuff himself of course)

[Toy Soldier]

Originally Posted by parmnion

I'm sure they will be delighted to be called a kid at that age!!

They don’t like being called kids at 12 either.

[GoldHeart]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

I was talking to Luke (17) yesterday about getting his provisional drivers license sorted because he just passed his theory test, and I said come on you're nearly an adult now you should be doing this stuff yourself, he said "I'm still a child" I think he'd be happy to be a child for a while yet (pure laziness of having to organise stuff himself of course)

Haven't you noticed though kids and teenagers love being treated like and called a kid , until they want to rebel then suddenly they're a 'grown up ' .

I remember at junior school ,when the game hang Man was being played ,and other pupils wanted the teacher to put all the said letters on the board, so they were not repeated, she was like "no you're not babies" to which they replied "yes we are " or something to that effect .

[Vicky.]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

I was talking to Luke (17) yesterday about getting his provisional drivers license sorted because he just passed his theory test, and I said come on you're nearly an adult now you should be doing this stuff yourself, he said "I'm still a child" I think he'd be happy to be a child for a while yet (pure laziness of having to organise stuff himself of course)

Yes they are children until it suits them to claim adulthood I remember that age well and I thought I was some master of manipulation when obviously my parents knew I was just taking the piss.

[Vicky.]

Originally Posted by Toy Soldier

They don’t like being called kids at 12 either.

Yup. Skye goes off it when I call her a child. Her preferred term is 'pre teen' and she even asked for young adult once.. though shes not even bloody 9 yet.
Yet I say to get her own uniform for school and suddenly I am the bad guy who is basically using child labour.

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by GoldHeart

Haven't you noticed though kids and teenagers love being treated like and called a kid , until they want to rebel then suddenly they're a 'grown up ' .

I remember at junior school ,when the game hang Man was being played ,and other pupils wanted the teacher to put all the said letters on the board, so they were not repeated, she was like "no you're not babies" to which they replied "yes we are " or something to that effect .

Originally Posted by Vicky.

Yes they are children until it suits them to claim adulthood I remember that age well and I thought I was some master of manipulation when obviously my parents knew I was just taking the piss.

I think Luke would be happy to be babied forever

[Vicky.]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

I think Luke would be happy to be babied forever

Until you tell him not to do something Then he is an adult.

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Vicky.

Until you tell him not to do something Then he is an adult.

He's seriously never done that yet

[Vicky.]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

He's seriously never done that yet

He will soon

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Vicky.

He will soon

Probably

[Beso]

All that's fine and well, but do they fancy Gino di campo?

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by parmnion

All that's fine and well, but do they fancy Gino di campo?

Who?