[Swan]

Originally Posted by Soldier Boy

Is the breakup recent? ...did you say 4 years?

I mean I'm trying not to judge but really just to be blunt, if you guys split 4 YEARS ago and it wasn't an actually abusive relationship, you need to sort your **** out and learn to be civil to each other for the sake of your daughter.

Things being raw/painful in the aftermath of a breakup is inevitable for months, even a year+ but 4 years? Can you not both move on? People change a tonne in 4 years, you're practically strangers.

I understand what you're saying, it's at the point where our daughter is becoming old enough to notice the bollocks between myself and her mother. Im no angel, i'm just above "useless". It's not fair on the girl!

I HAVE moved me on, but because i was unhappy in the relationship at the time, i was staying away from the home as much as possible. Late working. Pub. Any excuse to not go home to her demands and misery.

She is the one holding the grudge because i ended it.. I was an arsehole, but i try and be civil with the mother, it's hard work.

No SB, we share a child, who we both love, we'll never be strangers